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2020.08.04 00:47 Judy_w Looking for a private room in bensonhurst

Hi guys, i am looking for a private room that is close to BD/AC trains, the furnished room is preferred, female roommates are preferred. 6 months or longer lease is preferred. Sept 1st as the move-in date and a few days earlier is preferred. My budget is around 900 including everything. The ideal location will be Bensonhurst BK.
[facts about me]: I am a science graduate student at CUNY and I spend most of my time working from home( basically in my own room) during the quarantine and take seriously about the pandemic. I am clean and like to take the responsibility to make our homie nice and tidy. I like to embrace the difference with ppl from various backgrounds. I am respectful and openminded. Please PM me (or email:[email protected]) if you know any recourses. my Facebook account: https://www.facebook.com/rongmei.wei.5/
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2020.08.03 22:52 Judy_w looking for a private room in Bensonhurst

Hi guys, i am looking for a private room that is close to BD/AC trains, the furnished room is preferred, female roommates are preferred. 6 months or longer lease is preferred. Sept 1st as the move-in date and a few days earlier is preferred. My budget is around 900 including everything. The ideal location will be Bensonhurst BK.
[facts about me]: I am a science graduate student at CUNY and I spend most of my time working from home( basically in my own room) during the quarantine and take seriously about the pandemic. I am clean and like to take the responsibility to make our homie nice and tidy. I like to embrace the difference with ppl from various backgrounds. I am respectful and openminded. Please PM me if you know any recourses.
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2020.08.03 22:30 Judy_w looking for a private room in Bensonhurst

Hi guys, i am looking for a private room that is close to BD/AC trains, the furnished room is preferred, female roommates are preferred. 6 months or longer lease is preferred. Sept 1st as the move-in date and a few days earlier is preferred. My budget is around 900 including everything. Ideal location will be Bensonhurst BK.
[facts about me]: I am a science graduate student at CUNY and I spend most of my time working from home( basically in my own room) during the quarantine and take seriously about the pandemic. I am clean and like to take the responsibility to make our homie nice and tidy. I like to embrace the difference with ppl from various backgrounds. I am respectful and openminded. Please PM me if you know any recourses.
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2020.02.03 13:50 Warlach [TV Discussion] Harley Quinn S01E10 - "Bensonhurst"

Harley Quinn S01E10 - Bensonhurst
Time/Date: Jan. 31, 8 AM ET
Network/Channel: DC Universe
After a falling out with her crew, Harley heads back home to Bensonhurst, where her doting mother waits for her… and her deadbeat dad, who’s more dangerous than anticipated.
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2020.01.31 15:03 Vullein070 Harley Quinn S01E10 "Bensonhurst" - Episode Discussion Thread

After a falling out with her crew, Harley heads back home to Bensonhurst, where her doting mother waits for her...and her deadbeat dad, who's more dangerous than anticipated.
Share your thoughts, theories, predictions, and more! No spoilers or leaks for future episodes/seasons allowed.
Release Date: January 31, 2020

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  • J.B. Smoove as Frank the Plant
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  • Wanda Sykes as Queen of Fables
  • Giancarlo Esposito as Lex Luthor
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2019.09.25 21:58 derweenie August 1989

2: Pakistan is readmitted to the Commonwealth of Nations after leaving it in 1972.
5: Jaime Paz Zamora is elected President of Bolivia, taking office the next day.
7: U.S. Congressman Mickey Leland (D-TX) and fifteen others die in a plane crash in Ethiopia / The presidents of five Central American countries agree that the U.S.-backed contras fighting the government of Nicaragua should be disbanded and evicted from their bases in Honduras by December 5.
8: Prime Minister of New Zealand David Lange resigns for health reasons and is replaced by Geoffrey Palmer / STS-28 - Space Shuttle Columbia takes off on a secret five-day military mission.
9: Toshiki Kaifu becomes Prime Minister of Japan / The asteroid 4769 Castalia is the first asteroid directly imaged by radar from Arecibo Observatory / A measure to rescue the savings and loan industry is signed into law by President Bush, launching the largest federal rescue to date.
10: Army General Colin Powell became the first black Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff after being nominated by President George H. W. Bush.
13: A hot air balloon accident near Alice Springs, Australia kills thirteen people.
15: P.W. Botha resigns as State President of South Africa / F. W. de Klerk becomes the seventh and final State President of South Africa.
18: Leading presidential hopeful Luis Carlos Galán is assassinated near Bogotá, Colombia.
19: Polish president Wojciech Jaruzelski nominates Solidarity activist Tadeusz Mazowiecki to be Prime Minister, the first non-Communist in power in 42 years / The Pan-European Picnic, a peace demonstration, is held at the Austro-Hungarian border.
19–21: In response to the murder of a judge, a provincial police chief, and presidential candidate Galán, the authorities of Colombia arrest 11,000 suspected Colombian drug traffickers.
20: In Beverly Hills, California, Lyle and Erik Menendez shoot their wealthy parents to death in the family's den / Fifty-one people die when the Marchioness pleasure boat collides with a dredger on the River Thames adjacent to Southwark Bridge.
21: The 21st anniversary of the crushing of the Prague Spring is commemorated by a demonstration in the city.
23: Singing Revolution - Two million indigenous people of Estonia, Latvia and Lithuania join hands to demand freedom and independence from Soviet occupation, forming an uninterrupted 600 km human chain called the Baltic Way / Hungary removes border restrictions with Austria / All of Australia's 1,645 domestic airline pilots resign over an airline's move to sack and sue them over a dispute / Yusef Hawkins is shot in the Bensonhurst section of Brooklyn, New York, sparking racial tensions between African Americans and Italian Americans.
24: Colombia's cocaine traffickers declare "total and absolute war" against the government and begin a series of bombings and arson attacks / Tadeusz Mazowiecki of Solidarity is elected Prime Minister of Poland.
25: Voyager 2 makes its closest approach to Neptune and its moon Triton.
31: In the aftermath of the Chadian–Libyan conflict of 1978–87, representatives of Libya and Chad agree to let the International Court of Justice determine ownership of the Aouzou Strip, which had been occupied by Libya since 1973.
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2019.04.24 17:18 karuselnein [NEWS] THE NUMBER OF MEASLES CASES GROWS TO 390: NYC Dept of Health

Press Release - 11:10AM, 04/24/2019
Link: https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/about/press/pr2019/number-of-measles-cases-grows.page

NEW YORK CITY DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH AND MENTAL HYGIENE
Oxiris Barbot, MD
Commissioner

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Wednesday, April 24, 2019

(347) 396-4177

THE NUMBER OF MEASLES CASES GROWS TO 390
Individuals with measles now include two pregnant women. The City has worked closely with obstetricians/gynecologists and other health care providers to prepare for potential measles infections
Twelve individuals have been issued summonses since
the Health Department issued an Emergency Order to get vaccinated

April 24, 2019 – The Health Department announced today that the number of measles cases has grown to 390, including two pregnant women diagnosed with the infection, one diagnosed in mid-April. Of the 390 cases, 323 (83%) have occurred in Williamsburg (ZIP codes 11205, 11206, 11211, 11249), which has been under an Emergency Order to get vaccinated with the Measles-Mumps-Rubella vaccine (MMR) since April 12. A small number of cases have occurred outside of these neighborhoods but have, to date, not resulted in sustained transmission of measles. Twelve individuals have received summonses for being non-compliant with the Emergency Order since the City began issuing summonses last week. Any person receiving the summons is entitled to a hearing, and if the hearing officer upholds the summons, a $1,000 penalty will be imposed. Failing to appear at the hearing or respond to the summons will result in a $2,000 fine.
Health Commissioner Dr. Oxiris Barbot said, “We have now identified two expectant mothers who have contracted measles. These cases are stark reminders of why New Yorkers must get vaccinated against the measles as soon as possible. When we do not get vaccinated, we put our friends, our relatives, our neighbors, our classmates and other fellow New Yorkers at risk. We urgently repeat our plea to every New Yorker, especially those in the affected areas – unless you have a medical condition that prohibits you from doing so, please get vaccinated.”
“Currently, the outbreak remains intensely focused in Williamsburg where vaccination rates must continue to improve. While we’ve seen a few cases in people out of the Orthodox Jewish community, all but one of these individuals were exposed in Williamsburg and Borough Park and none of these have resulted in sustained transmission, mainly due to the power of herd immunity afforded by the high vaccination rates outside of the Williamsburg epicenter of this outbreak,” said Deputy Commissioner Dr. Demetre Daskalakis. “There’s no reason why a healthy child or adult should not be vaccinated against measles. We need to make sure that everyone who can get vaccinated, who doesn’t know their immunity status or vaccination history, gets the vaccine to protect themselves and those around them that can’t.”
The Health Department encourages all New Yorkers to make sure they are up to date with all age-appropriate vaccinations, including the MMR vaccine.
Today the Health Department has also issued a Health Alert to healthcare providers in NYC to provide additional updated citywide outbreak-related guidance to hasten the end of measles transmission. Updated outbreak-related guidance includes:

  1. Updated guidance for adults who have not completed a two-dose series of a measles-containing vaccine, do not have immunization records or are not immune, if they reside or regularly spend time in Williamsburg or Borough Park or other areas with measles activity including New York State and international travel.
  2. Updated guidance for children includes the following recommendations:

  1. Administration of an early extra dose of MMR vaccine for children 6- 11 months old if they reside or regularly spend time in Williamsburg, Borough Park or Crown Heights and areas with measles activity.
  2. For Orthodox Jewish children 6- 11 months old, living in other neighborhoods, an extra dose of MMR should be considered.
  3. Administration of the second dose of MMR vaccine for children 1-4 years old who have already gotten their first scheduled dose of MMR and who reside or regularly spend time in neighborhoods and areas with measles activity.
The Health Department has issued three prior Health Alerts to healthcare providers in the affected community and around the city. Additionally, the Health Department has specifically alerted obstetricians/gynecologists and other healthcare providers of the outbreak and recommended that pregnant women be screened for measles immunity. The Health Department also recommended that in instances where pregnant women have been exposed, woman’s measles immunity should be assessed quickly to determine if she should receive intravenous immune globulin (IVIG). In a past outbreak of measles, cases in pregnant women resulted in a baby being born with measles and a miscarriage.
Eight individuals, including the initial case, acquired measles while travelling abroad to Israel (5), the United Kingdom (2) and Ukraine (1), areas with active outbreaks, highlighting the need for MMR vaccination for individuals traveling overseas. A small number of cases have occurred outside of the Williamsburg and Borough Park neighborhoods at the core of the current outbreak. These cases have been diagnosed in residents of Midwood/Marine Park (4), Brighton Beach (2), Flushing (2), Crown Heights (1), Bensonhurst (1), Far Rockaway (1) and the Hunts Point, Longwood and Melrose section of The Bronx (1). Seven individuals who do not identify as members of the Orthodox Jewish community have been diagnosed with measles since the outbreak began in October. Of individuals who acquired measles in NYC, only one person diagnosed with measles during this outbreak, who lives in the Hunts Point, Longwood and Melrose section of The Bronx, does not report an exposure associated with the Orthodox Jewish community of Williamsburg, Borough Park, or other area with measles activity.
To stop the spread of measles in New York City, the Health Department on April 9 ordered adults and children ages 6 months and older who live, work or go to school in ZIP codes 11205, 11206, 11211 and 11249 receive a measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccine within 48 hours. If non-compliant, the Health Department announced it would issue a civil summons to those in the affected ZIP codes who had not been vaccinated as of April 12.
Since the outbreak began in October, the Health Department has published ads and distributed educational materials specific to the Orthodox community in English and in Yiddish. The Department has met with rabbinical and community leaders, health care providers, and local elected officials to highlight the importance of getting vaccinated and the dangers of measles. The Health Department continues to perform extensive outreach in the community with a sixth round of robocalls that go out to about 30,000 households.
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2019.03.16 00:48 wandita21 [Looking For] Roommate in 2BR

Looking for a roommate in a two-bedroom. Room (unfurnished) available starting April 1st (flexible move in date) in Bensonhurst, Brooklyn. Apartment is located on 4th Fl walk up. Room can fit a full/queen bed, dresser and desk. 1 Closet. We will share all common areas and apartment will be furnished. Apartment is located on the D line 79th ST Stop a 6 minute walk from apt. 20 min train ride to Maimonides Hospital. Area has a Laundromat a block away, grocery/bodega, if you have a car there is on street parking available.
About you: Professional/student in late 20s -30s.
CL:
https://newyork.craigslist.org/brk/roo/d/brooklyn-looking-for-female-roommate-in/6842050275.html
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2019.02.20 23:12 infextious Measles Update: Americas, Asia

In this update:

Americas

[1] USA: CDC update, multistate alert [2] USA: (Illinois, Champaign-Urbana) [3] USA: (Washington state, Clark county)

Asia

[4] Philippines [5] Philippines [6] India (Bihar) [7] Taiwan: travel alert [8] Japan
[1] USA: CDC update, multistate alert Date: Sun 17 Feb 2019 Source: DG Alerts from CDC (US); State Health Agencies [edited] https://dgalerts.docguide.com/multistate-usa-update-measles-outbreaks-continue-grow?nl_ref=newsletter&pk_campaign=newsletter&nl_eventid=28693

CDC update

According to an update by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there have been 101 individual cases of measles have been confirmed in 10 states from [1 Jan to 7 Feb 2019].
The states that have reported cases to CDC are California, Colorado, Connecticut, Georgia, Illinois, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Texas, and Washington.
See figure [at URL above] showing the number of measles cases reported by year, from 2010-2019 (as of 7 Feb 2019).
So far, 5 outbreaks (defined as 3 or more cases) have been reported in 2019 in the following jurisdictions: - New York state, Rockland county - New York state, Monroe county - New York City - Washington (Clark county) - Texas
These outbreaks are linked to travelers who brought measles back from other countries such as Israel and Ukraine, where large measles outbreaks are occurring.

New York

As of 13 Feb 2019, there are 135 confirmed reported cases of measles in Rockland county.
Vaccination rates for confirmed measles cases in Rockland county: - 81.5% have had 0 MMRs [measles, mumps, rubella vaccine] - 3.1% have had 1 MMR - 4.6% have had 2 MMRs - 10.8% unknown status
Meanwhile, as of 12 Feb 2019, there have been 73 confirmed cases of measles in the Orthodox Jewish community in Brooklyn since October [2018]. The initial child with measles was unvaccinated and acquired measles on a visit to Israel, where a large outbreak of the disease is occurring. Since then, there have been additional children from Brooklyn who were unvaccinated and acquired measles while in Israel. Children who did not travel were also infected in Brooklyn or Rockland county.
The neighborhoods that are affected include: - Bensonhurst: 1 confirmed measles case (no new cases since November 2018) - Borough Park: 39 confirmed measles cases (1 new case in the past week) - Midwood/Marine Park: 1 confirmed measles case (no new cases since November 2018) - Williamsburg: 32 confirmed measles cases (5 new case in the past week)

Washington

Clark County Public Health is continuing its measles outbreak investigation and has identified 2 new confirmed cases. Since 1 Jan 2019, Public Health has identified 61 confirmed cases and currently is not investigating any suspect cases. Public Health has identified 2 new locations where people may have been exposed to measles.
Here are the details of the confirmed cases: Age - 1 to 10 years: 44 cases - 11 to 18 years: 14 cases - 19 to 29 years: 1 case - 30 to 39 years: 2 cases Immunization status - Unimmunized: 54 cases - Unverified: 5 cases - 1 MMR vaccine: 2 cases Hospitalization: 1 case (none currently)
Public Health is not providing any additional information about the 2 cases with 1 dose of MMR in order to protect the patients' privacy.

Texas

So far, 8 measles cases have been confirmed in Texas this year [2019]. The Department of State Health Services Public Health Region for the Houston area is urging health care providers to consider measles when diagnosing patients because early identification, along with immunization, is key to preventing measles from spreading.
Texas had 9 confirmed cases in 2018 and 1 in 2017.
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2019.02.20 23:07 infextious Measles Update: Americas, Asia

In this update:

Americas

[1] USA: CDC update, multistate alert [2] USA: (Illinois, Champaign-Urbana) [3] USA: (Washington state, Clark county)

Asia

[4] Philippines [5] Philippines [6] India (Bihar) [7] Taiwan: travel alert [8] Japan
[1] USA: CDC update, multistate alert Date: Sun 17 Feb 2019 Source: DG Alerts from CDC (US); State Health Agencies [edited] https://dgalerts.docguide.com/multistate-usa-update-measles-outbreaks-continue-grow?nl_ref=newsletter&pk_campaign=newsletter&nl_eventid=28693

CDC update

According to an update by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there have been 101 individual cases of measles have been confirmed in 10 states from [1 Jan to 7 Feb 2019].
The states that have reported cases to CDC are California, Colorado, Connecticut, Georgia, Illinois, New Jersey, New York, Oregon, Texas, and Washington.
See figure [at URL above] showing the number of measles cases reported by year, from 2010-2019 (as of 7 Feb 2019).
So far, 5 outbreaks (defined as 3 or more cases) have been reported in 2019 in the following jurisdictions: - New York state, Rockland county - New York state, Monroe county - New York City - Washington (Clark county) - Texas
These outbreaks are linked to travelers who brought measles back from other countries such as Israel and Ukraine, where large measles outbreaks are occurring.

New York

As of 13 Feb 2019, there are 135 confirmed reported cases of measles in Rockland county.
Vaccination rates for confirmed measles cases in Rockland county: - 81.5% have had 0 MMRs [measles, mumps, rubella vaccine] - 3.1% have had 1 MMR - 4.6% have had 2 MMRs - 10.8% unknown status
Meanwhile, as of 12 Feb 2019, there have been 73 confirmed cases of measles in the Orthodox Jewish community in Brooklyn since October [2018]. The initial child with measles was unvaccinated and acquired measles on a visit to Israel, where a large outbreak of the disease is occurring. Since then, there have been additional children from Brooklyn who were unvaccinated and acquired measles while in Israel. Children who did not travel were also infected in Brooklyn or Rockland county.
The neighborhoods that are affected include: - Bensonhurst: 1 confirmed measles case (no new cases since November 2018) - Borough Park: 39 confirmed measles cases (1 new case in the past week) - Midwood/Marine Park: 1 confirmed measles case (no new cases since November 2018) - Williamsburg: 32 confirmed measles cases (5 new case in the past week)

Washington

Clark County Public Health is continuing its measles outbreak investigation and has identified 2 new confirmed cases. Since 1 Jan 2019, Public Health has identified 61 confirmed cases and currently is not investigating any suspect cases. Public Health has identified 2 new locations where people may have been exposed to measles.
Here are the details of the confirmed cases: Age - 1 to 10 years: 44 cases - 11 to 18 years: 14 cases - 19 to 29 years: 1 case - 30 to 39 years: 2 cases Immunization status - Unimmunized: 54 cases - Unverified: 5 cases - 1 MMR vaccine: 2 cases Hospitalization: 1 case (none currently)
Public Health is not providing any additional information about the 2 cases with 1 dose of MMR in order to protect the patients' privacy.

Texas

So far, 8 measles cases have been confirmed in Texas this year [2019]. The Department of State Health Services Public Health Region for the Houston area is urging health care providers to consider measles when diagnosing patients because early identification, along with immunization, is key to preventing measles from spreading.
Texas had 9 confirmed cases in 2018 and 1 in 2017.
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2018.09.16 01:00 bushshirtmegaton Lied to my wife about being a male prostitute in my 20s. She also has no idea I am bisexual, and would be uncomfortable with the idea.

Some backstory. I grew up in a poor italian area in brooklyn and didn't really have anything growing up. I got good grades and got accepted to a good college, but didn't have anywhere near enough money to pay for it.
At the time, I had been through a few girlfriends and had one gay experience in my life. I knew I was bisexual, but with a strong, strong preference towards women. Through that one gay experience, I met a few people in the west village who were gay and I had a few more sexual experiences with them.
Eventually one of them introduced me to a website where you could post pictures of yourself and meet guys for a quick fuck, basically a proto-tindegrindr. I noticed a guy amount of the guys there offered money for it, and I was hugely in debt and I was tempted.
Eventually I just sort of tried it out, and honestly had a good time the first time. It wasn't that different from a regular hook up, except I got paid at the end. I started working out a lot so I would attract more customers, and within maybe 3-4 months of sort of testing the waters with it, I decided to plunge fully into it. Within a few more months I had a bunch of steady customers. Mostly older bisexual or in the closet guys, typically in their 30s-50s, who had wives and girlfriends but wanted to do stuff with men. Cops, doctors, lawyers, you name it. You guys would be super surprised at the amount of 'straight men' who are 90% interested in women, but then end up acting out on that 10% interest in men and have a blast. They always start out scared and nervous and end up having a ton of fun.
None of my friends knew. Actually pretty much nobody knew except for a few of my friends in the village. In my area? Bensonhurst? People would react TERRIBLY to that. Its an italian-catholic area, they aren't friendly towards homosexuality at all, my friends fit more on the set of the Sopranos than on the set of Glee (not like my friends were actually gangsters but they definitely glamorized that stuff).
Anyways, I just made a shit ton of money doing that. One guy especially I think was sort of in love with me or something and would give me huge amounts of money. I got invited to orgies, which I didn't particularly enjoy but I got paid a lot of money to go to. Frankly, I didn't enjoy maybe 70% of my encounters. I am bisexual but I only really like a very specific kind of guy, and almost none of my clients were that type, so I just sort of had to act as if I enjoyed it. I didn't DISLIKE it except for some of the time.
Nobody ever found out, I told people it was a contractor job where I helped people move stuff, and thats why I was going to manhattan randomly. I also slept with girls during this time period, I never told them anything. I decided dating one would be a bad idea because I would HAVE to tell them, and there was a chance they would tell other people, so I just stuck to casual sex.
When college ended, I still had debt. So I continued to work. Eventually I got linked up with a guy who helped me get more contacts and so I didn't have to use the website anymore. With guys, there is no 'pimp' it seemed, it was typically just people exchanging their contact lists. I paid off my college debt by age 23, but I continued doing it on and off until about 27. The times when I stopped doing it was when I was dating a girl. Typically I could do it for two or so months and get 2-4k and have that saved up and then not do it for a while.
I fully stopped doing it at 29. My career was getting more serious, and I was beginning to earn more money, and also I was working crazy hours. At 31, I met Jess. I never told her about my past as a prostitute. She was beautiful, smart, amazing, and I fell in love right away. She also was religious, which meant me telling her that I was bisexual, let alone that I was a prostitute, was a major problem.
I got married to her at 33, and now I am 37 and we are still as happy as when we first got married. I don't know if I will ever tell her, most likely never. I am petrified of her finding out. We also live in the suburbs and I don't know how she would find out at this point.
Also, because I know its gonna come up in the comments. Yes, I took the absolute full precautions in this regard. Common STD tests and check ups. I am clean. Surprisingly I actually think I had less of a chance as a prostitute to catch HIV than as a normal gay man looking for hookups. Most of the men I slept with had never had gay sex with anyone but me, maybe one or two other people. Other gay men had such an easy time getting laid that they would never need to resort to prostitution.
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2017.07.09 07:05 KMAwrites I just realized I'm in the weirdest "relationship"

So, I'll try to explain this as simply as possible (as it is nearly 1 in the intoxication morning).
There's this guy. I might have called him Bensonhurst on here before. Met on OKC. Few dates. He cancelled one... Blah blah, we weren't dating.
But he texted me and we just started talking again after about a week where I didn't contact him. And we hooked up once or twice since then. We agree to hang tonight. Usually, it's sex, TV, convo, but tonight he wants to have dinner.
So, we ate. He showed me a new fun place in my borough. Then, really great sex, TV and some convo while hanging on the couch with his dog.
I get home and it hit me... We like each other. We're attracted to each other. We make each other laugh. We have different views so we challenge each other. We have great sex. We text just about every day.
And we only see each other when we want to. We cuddle, but nothing lovey dovey. No commitment. Zero expectations.
This "arms length" thing isn't weird. It's like, both of us will give x amount of ourselves to each other. It's unspoken. And it works.
He doesn't want to be considered a FWB, but tonight wasn't a "date-date."
So, I think that means he and I are both broken, don't trust, are afraid of commitment, so why am I like, so happy I feel like I have the greatest situation? haha
(Also, I recently found I have an aversion to the thought of commitment and I fear actually liking someone. New development.)
But seriously? Is this my best life I'm living?! I don't even want to tell my therapist 'cause therapy ruins everything. #funzapper
ADDENDUM: There are things about him that make him not a smart choice for an actual boyfriend. So maybe that's why I don't care? IDK. I'm getting a RUI (Redditing under the influence)... Haha
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2017.05.25 22:35 KMAwrites Overthinking​: Do I deserve someone nice?

So, I'm screwing around with Mr. Bensonhurst, Mr. Foot Fetish and maybe another. I just started seeing the Young Buck. I like him. After date one, I saw him again and I LIKE him. I hate that I let this happen.
No real red flags.
But last night I asked about his last relationship. He doesn't seem to have had one... The last one was basically a FWB, but then she got a boyfriend (not Young Buck). When she's single, he's friend-zoned, but texts him at 2 a.m. when she finds out he's seeing someone.
He's still kind of on her hook.
I'm supposed to go see his band on Saturday. I am not dealing with teeny-bopper bullshit or groupies.
I was thinking about why liking him makes me nervous. I think I think I don't deserve nice. I've wasted so much time on shitty, abusive relationships. I'm 37. I don't want to waste more time and energy.
Fine, I buy my own drinks. He told me I'm "hot" on date one but nothing last night. He was in his head a bit and beat from a long day, but my last relationship was with a non-communicative guy. Foot Fetish tells me I'm beautiful. I don't usually believe it and I'm shit at taking compliments, but it's nice to hear.
I'm not OK with dating the same Mike, Joey, Chris and the other shits I put myself through.
Young Buck knows if he wants us to be a thing, he has to cut 2 a.m. texter off.
Am I being crazy and looking for flags? Or did he over share (as I often do) and I'm reading too much into it?
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2012.12.18 08:37 tabledresser [Table] IAmA college sophomore earning my living and tuition as a sex worker, AMA.

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What other roles to you play? besides wrestling... Whats the most popular? Whats your favorite? The whole "naughty secretary" is a pretty popular dynamic, but my personal favorite is this guy who has me dress up as super girl so he can be my nerdy computer guy that I'm mean to all the time. He even takes out a piece of Kryptonite near the end, and I fall over, weak and defenseless after making fun of him for an hour. Pretty hysterical.
Do you have consensual sex for fun? Are you in a relationship? Do your partner(s) know about your job? How do they feel about it? I am currently in an open relationship with my boyfriend of a year now, and he knows all about it. The trick is to find someone who thinks it's hot.
Open relationship?? Sounds fun. How did you guys decided on that one? I kind of pushed it, he was really hesitant at first, but totally on board now.
PROTIP: He doesn't really like it, he just likes you enough to put up with it. Probably. =) Oh well.
Ron Swanson, Parks & Recreation: “Do you fish, April?” I will consider the wise words of Ron Swanson, and deliberate over that.
Wow, that's really sad. I hope I never fall in love with someone as cruel as you. Oh my, people can't take a joke... I'm gonna show him this post, he's gonna get a kick out of it.
Hi! I've got quite a few for you. Thanks for doing this one, it's really intriguing. I practice jiu jitsu, but I don't diet. I've got a few more years of eating whatever the hell I want, and I'm going to enjoy every last one.
Could you walk us through a typical work day for you? Things like: Is there a set schedule you have to adhere to or is it pretty lax? Do clients have to make appointments or can they just walk in for services? Are you allowed to pick who you "play" with or does the Mistress assign clients to you? Does the studio stay open all day or is it mostly an evening affair? Do women come in for services? Do any couples come in? Are there any male workers in the studio available for women/gay men? Typically a client will make an appointment a few days in advance through my boss, who will then confirm the appointment with me. I show up a few minutes early, get dressed up, or dressed down, whatever you want to call it, and spend an hour in the studio per session. My boss is on close terms with almost all of her clients, so she will generally tell me a few things about what they like, what they act like, and what they're expecting out of the session before I go in. I don't exactly chose who I see, but I can always chose who I won't see if there's ever a problem. -There are a few women who come in to wrestle other girls, but only a handful. I've gone to a few couples on outcalls, and those are always awesome, I wish there was more of that. We don't but we should have gay men, I keep telling my boss, I have a few clients that are always asking about that.
How'd you do the Hindu goddess? Some heavy make up, a flowy kind of belly dancing outfit, and a lot of, "You are worthless, I am a goddess. Worship me."
I am not a "prostitute" or a "hooker" or even a "call girl," I might laugh if you refer to me as such, but I also really might not. Just try not to, these terms can be very demeaning and offensive in the right context. Better to just call it sex worker if you're unsure. Do you think it's a little fucked up that you sell access to your body for money but look down on other women that do the same thing in different ways? No, I don't look down on that at all, but I think those labels and those names carry a negative connotation with them. People use them as insults in everyday jokes, they're "dirty words," and that's not something anybody needs to define their occupation by. To me we're all sex workers.
Whats the worst customer you have gotten being a "sex worker"? And another thing why is it called sex work if there is no sex involved? My least favorite client is actually and unfortunately one of my regulars, just because his sessions are so specific and intense. He's into hardcore wrestling and pinning and boxing, and cycling through that straight for an hour is hard enough, but he's also just super annoying and makes me sanitize, like, my whole body before he can touch me...
He's a doctor.
Do guys do it because it's a fetish of theirs to wrestle hot chicks? boners? Yep. Boners galore, man.
It's actually a surprisingly common fetish.
Do you have any sex tips for us who aren't doing this for a living to make our sex-lives more interesting/exciting? Whatever dark secret fetish or weird idea you have floating around in your brain, that maybe you only sometimes think about when you're alone and masturbating, I can promise you, it's not that weird. There's weirder. It's out there. Trust me. Especially with a partner you've had for awhile, there is nothing you might find sexy that they will not be willing to give a try. Most people will just be excited you have an idea for something new.
And if you've got no kink to speak of, then experiment. Buy a pair of handcuffs or something, just for the hell of it. Who knows, you might like it. Go sex shopping together, or even just go browse and make fun of everything together, you might even pick up an idea or two.
Do you ever feel not so good about yourself after work? Not demeaning at all. The first few subway rides home I remember being distinctly subdued, maybe even a little melancholy. But not for long.
Did you need to shut down a part of your brain (that might make you think, feel bad, "what am I doing here" feelings, etc) in the beginning at work? It's not about shutting down the parts of your brain that feel guilty, it's about seeing that guilt as something society expects you to feel; perhaps I've simply adapted to my circumstance, but sex doesn't seem like it should be something we should be feeling bad about, ever. It's just sex, it's just bodies, it's just humans. Everyone needs a few minutes of exaltation, of peace. Is it weird that I think I facilitate that? That's honestly how I feel about my work. I feel good about it. Like maybe somehow I'm helping these guys cope.
Sorry if these questions are demeaning in any manner!! Sex is drugs is religion is god is sex... pick your poison, it's all a rebellion against the same suffering.
This is just MY opinion (which means it is not universally right :)) but giving handies (handjobs) seems to be going a lil out of the way to make more money. When you started working, did you ever draw a line and think that this is going to be my limit (for extra favors clients asked for)? And how did those limits change with time working at your job (as your outlook for sex, etc changed overtime)? I don't deny that a lot of the change in my philosophy towards sex grew out of necessity. In the beginning of course I was uncertain, I considered my limits, dear lord I weighed them in my hands every day, every time I walked into the studio I'd hang them up and apply my make-up, and look into the mirror and not the face looking back at me. I called the first couple of sessions an experiment, and they were shocking and kind of terrifying; I was suddenly faced with all of the morality of my childhood, cracking in my own hands. For a while I felt strange, uncertain and out of touch with everyone... but, then, in a way... kind of liberated. Like I had embarked on some secret Freudian journey into the unknown, the great darkness of humanity. In a way, these men trusted me with the deepest tremors of their brain made physical, as only the function of lust knows how. It was fascinating, despite my trepidation, to watch each of their inner worlds unfold before my eyes, made so clear by the war of lust, the sort of symbolic dance. Pardon my poetry, but this is part of my fascination. The poetry of it. Sick, strange, but at certain moments, in the right light, so oddly beautiful.
Have you ever developed and emotional attraction to a customer? perhaps a regular, if so how did that go ? I've never had a customer who I've had a deep emotional connection with or anything like that, but there are a few guys who I consider my real life friends, and hang out with pretty frequently, that also happen to be my regulars at the studio.
Is that awkward at all for anyone? How do you separate your professional life and your personal life considering the nature of your work? I used to wonder if I would get mixed up, or if all this was going to start to seriously spill out into my personal life, but somehow at the end of the day they do manage to fit nicely into their own distinct boxes.
It helps that when I'm working, the me I am in my personal life sort of takes a backseat to the persona that comes out for the client, which can be a completely different person than who I am normally, or even a completely different person than the session before. I guess that helps to distinguish the difference between work and sex that I'm enjoying for me. At work, it's all an act. Always. I can't say I've ever been particularly turned on at work; at the most mildly interested. But so far it's been surprisingly easy to maintain an emotional distance while still acting convincingly.
How much money do you actually make off of this? How has doing this changed your view on sexuality? It's actually completely changed my view on sexuality in a lot of ways; for one, I don't believe in complete monogamy anymore, because I think it's a waste of time to go around making promises that are inevitably going to get broken by one or the other party. I didn't have much interest or use for sexual jealousy before, but now I could honestly care less about something like that. If you like me, cool. Do whatever you want with your time, as long as you chose to spend it with me every once in a while.
Does penis size matter? How did you get into this work? Penis size does not matter in the slightest; usually there's at least some clothes between myself and my clients anyway.
And craigslist, as sketchy as that sounds. I'd been working retail since I was 14 and I was just sick of it. Saw an ad and thought, "Well, why the hell not, might as well just go meet with this lady, see what this is about..." and here I am a year later... haven't gotten sick of it yet.
Do you not worry about getting raped? My boss's office is literally right next door to the studio room, so she'd hear anything immediately.
I actually had this huuuge creeper of a client who kept trying to get me to have sex with him, and I kept declining. He tried some funny business, but I got up and walked out and never saw him again.
Your boss is a woman? I didn't expect that. Did she used to do this? Is she the owner? Yep, she still does sessions on occasion; she's got a few high profile clients that she's had for years and years. And yup, she owns the business.
Any funny accidental injuries? Oh man,
I've fallen in my heels trying to enter the room sexily so many times. I'm actually a huge klutz, sometimes I can hide it and sometimes I'm tripping over my own feet and breaking holes in the wall.
I also almost broke my hand punching a refrigerator after losing a really long and grueling match against this european chick...
Do men get off when they are with you? If so, how do they get off? Do you grind on their junk while you're wrestling until they cum, or do they masturbate at all? About half of my clients will turn into a deer in headlights if you even hint at something like that, and the other half expect it as part of the deal. Some grinding, mostly I won't even know it's happening, it'll happen arbitrarily while we're wrestling or something. Sometimes it's more explicit.
One of my clients is this uncharacteristically young 23 year old Indian fellow, who insists on wearing nothing but a condom when we wrestle. He hasn't tried to pull a fast one on me, yet, but he definitely doesn't have the balls to try.
Most of these guys are awkward as all hell, that's why they're there. Sometimes they'll ask me very nicely for something extra, and sometimes I'll even acquiesce, but to be honest, mostly they just want to tumble around with a nice girl and talk.
Do you try to keep your work on the DL? Do your parents know? If not, what would you do if they found out? I usually try and be discrete about it, but if someone starts asking a bunch of question's about my cover job I'll usually just give in and tell them.
My parents do not know, and if they found out, I'd probably just apologize for keeping it a secret, but I wouldn't apologize about the job itself. I think they'd understand eventually, it's just a shock that I'd prefer to avoid.
You seem bored... So how long do you intend on doing this job? Which parts do you think that you'll miss the most when you're finished with it? I'm thinking about quitting soon, mostly because I've seen the girls who have been there for years and years and it's pretty scary. They're all sort of batshit insane. Not saying I'm not, but this is definitely something I plan on outgrowing.
I think I'll miss the schedule; I usually only work 3-6 hours a week, and that's been more than enough.
Proof? I sent it to the mods, I don't want the whole internet downloading embarrassing sexy pictures of me. They can verify.
But but but what if we WANT embarrassing sexy pictures of you? Link to 1.bp.blogspot.com
I kid, good luck with your AMA :) oh yeah and KITTENS! Compromise.
You already said no penetration, but mutual masturbation or other types of "foreplay" may still be on the table. What is the most sexual thing you ever did during this job (or got asked to) and how frequent is it? H a n d j o b s!
My boss calls it a "Sensual ending." Asked for with expected regularity, declined for some, but I usually acquiesce for the nice ones. I think that was the biggest adjustment I had to make, as far as comfort level goes, but to be honest its just not that big of a deal anymore. I guess some people will think it's degrading, or gross, but actually, with the quiet clientele the place attracts and their overall shyness, it's closer to giving someone a massage than anything misogynistic or gross... Some girls won't do them at all and that's fine, too.
Of course... like anything in life... the more you give, the more you get... shrug
Do you do these with or without a condom on? When it happens, it's usually without.
Who cleans it up? The girls, generally speaking.
What is the average demographic of your clientele, being as specific and vague and possible? Average client is a shy, somewhat nerdy/inarticulate white male around 40-60, generally fairly wealthy (Lots o' 1%ers), although I do get a good mix of social classes in my regulars. Probably about half of them are married and lonely, the other half are lonely and lonely.
Do you ever feel weird about doing this with married clients? If not, then how do you view it? Sometimes it's weird, but I actually mostly feel really bad for the married clients; not a single one of them seems happy. One of my regulars has been married for 10 years and hasn't even kissed his wife in 6. He doesn't do anything sensual at all, just strict wrestling. Apparently he's never cheated on her, she just hates him and married him for his money and now finds him sexually repulsive... kind of depressing.
How do the men get there "satisfaction" unless there is some... rubbing or something. Do they touch themselves? Do they just get really horny then leave and jerk it? Not understanding here. Once again, depends on the client. Some just get really horny and leave. Some come pre-prepared for whatever happens during wrestling or role play, and some will ask for a "little something extra." That wish, if they are generally cool and nice and relaxed about it, is generally granted. I'll spell it out for you if you still don't catch my drift.
A little extra as in...? How far has it, and how far does it generally go? If given this request was granted. H a n d j o b s! My boss calls it a "Sensual ending." Asked for with expected regularity, declined for some, but I usually acquiesce for the nice ones. I think that was the biggest adjustment I had to make, as far as comfort level goes, but to be honest its just not that big of a deal anymore. I guess some people will think it's degrading, or gross, but actually, with the quiet clientele the place attracts and their overall shyness, it's closer to giving someone a massage than anything misogynistic or gross... Some girls won't do them at all and that's fine, too. Of course... like anything in life... the more you give, the more you get... shrug
Mysogynistic means to hate women. I think if a woman is giving me a handjob, in the current moment I anything but hate them. Yeah, not the right word at all... I meant "some sort of show of power" really, but I don't know a word for that...
Dominate lol. Oh yeah...
Hahahaha, sorry, literally running on no sleep today.
Do you ever like wrestle in jello or gravy? We've done oil wrestling, but jello and gravy are messy as all hell, and the only staff on duty are the girls themselves, and I ain't cleaning that up.
There aren't any guards of any kind? To protect the girls? Just the boss, but trust me, she's guard enough for 5 girls.
How big's ya dick? Too big to talk about on reddit, I'll crash the server, man.
Are you american? Yup, genuine American Mutt.
God bless America. Home sweet home, baby.
Whats your degree program? And what state is your university in, may i ask. I'm studying a blend of psychology, creative writing, and computer science. I go to school in NYC.
Sounds like you are taking a blend of 'you don't know wtf you want to do' Yeah, I'm not super concerned. I'll narrow it down in grad school and all that. I just want to learn about the things that interest me, for now.
Thats cool! My uncle is a prof at CUNY SI haha and i visited my cousin who lives in midtown recently. Do you like nyc? Do you go into the city often? (Obv if you go to columbia/nyu) I love NYC, greatest city on the planet, man. I work in midtown, so I'm in Manhattan a lot, but I live in Brooklyn, in a totally unhip part of town, but I love it. Quiet, good for studying/music making.
Repeat after me: "Would you like fries with that?" You will need to know that. Eh, I guess. I mean, this isn't the only job I've ever had, if I had to quit I think I'd manage something other than McDonald's...
Columbia? Nooope.
What kind of music do you make? can we hear some? Hahahaha, I play guitar and write bullshit rap...
I hope you're not refering to bensonhurst :C. Nah, midwood.
Why do you greatest city on the planet? Oh my, it looks like a verb of this sentence ran away from you... Why do I say greatest city on the planet?
Madlibs. Add verb. but yes, that is what I meant to say. Because New York IS the planet... I bet you could meet at least one person from every nationality in the world within a week if you went up to random people and talked to them.
Can I have some money? Uhhh, no.
Do you get paid in cash? How do you keep track of your income for taxes? I get paid in cash, and I report self-employed; I played the subway for money for a awhile last year, and I still do every so often, so it's not such a ludicrous cover. I keep bank statements to track my income.
Do you feel bad for straight guys who can't do this to pay for college? All of my guy friends have told me at least once how jealous they are, so definitely. I don't know what it is about the ladies, but as a whole generalized percentage, they just don't care about sex enough to pay money for it.
This is strange to me, because I feel like there's a whole sub-population of girls with really weird fetishes they're uncomfortable sharing with people, who could definitely stand to benefit from some anonymous no strings sex therapy.
Like what sort of fetishes? Strange, it never really crossed my mind that women would have weird fetishes too, but now I don't see any reason why they wouldn't. I'm not the expert on women's fetishes, but those 50 shades of grey books could not have sold that many copies if there weren't plenty of women into BDSM. I've also heard of doll fetishes, (pretending to be a doll) "objectification" fetishes (which involves being turned into an object. Not like, "damn she's such a hot bitch" objectification, but more like pretending to turn someone into... a chair. This is a real thing.) gang-bang fetishes, the list goes on...
Cool, thanks for the post and the AMA! About 50 Shades of Grey - I suspect that the "safety in numbers" factor might play into it as well: if every other housewife on the block is reading it, then Judy Public feels like she can read it without feeling ashamed or guilty. I agree with you completely, that kind of proves the arbitrary value of morality...
How do you deal with the degradation of women that is an inherent part of sex work? I have never once felt degraded in my line of work. My clients respect me as a human being both outside of the studio and inside. Sure, we put on our masks and play our games, but these are just masks and this is just a game, and my clients know that. When all is through, we'll take off the masks, and sometimes we'll walk to the subway and discuss whether Kant's sublimity could be found in the human soul, or theories of relativity... Every man who I have seen at my studio has treated me with nothing less but the utmost kindness and respect. You can thank my boss for that, she is very particular with her clients.
Thanks for the answer. Although I must point out that feeling degraded and being degraded are not mutually inclusive. I think you have a very interesting job, I've never even heard of this sort of thing before. I see what you're saying, but I just don't agree that "degradation of women" is an inherent part of sex work at all. I think it can be, I think it has often been like that in the past, but I don't think it has to be.
I would say my relationship with my clients is much more similar to a psychologist/patient dynamic than a Product/Customer one.
Ever stepped on a guys balls in pair of stilettos cause he wanted you to? Or you just felt like it? I've threatened with stilettos, but my boss doesn't like us actually stepping with stilettos, it's super dangerous. I've done a lot of barefoot stepping, though.
This makes my stomach upset hahaa. Once stepped on do the balls balloon out the sides of your feet or in between your toes? You seem pretty interested in it, despite your stomach ache...
Ever get female clients? The studio has a few, but I haven't seen any solo females professionally yet. I wish more would come in, I've done couples, but that's it. I'm bisexual, and damn, I wish some more ladies would come in. Girls are easier to work with, less picky.
What's your breast size? Lol, I was waiting for this one, you know I don't even know right now, I think a 34 C or something... But it's surprising how little you can get by on just looks in this business.
It's like, 10% can you look the part, and 90% you better be able to act the part, cause that's what they came for. You can find tits just about anywhere, but personalized attention to the very weird but very prevalent sexual demons crowding your head? That's hard to come by.
What's your win/lose ratio? Girls - 4/2 guys - much harder to count, these are usually much less of an official kind of fight with rules and a winner and a loser, and more just sort of messing around for an hour. I usually end up on top, but then again, that's probably just the way they like it, you know?
Do you do parties? lol. Hahahaha I should...
Is most of your income 'tips' or salary? Depends. Sometimes I'll get a rush of clients all at once that all tip really well, but not every client tips...
You don't have sex with anyone. How does this qualify you as a sex worker? It's a general term for someone whose job is somehow associated with sex as an industry. Sex phone operators are called sex workers, strippers are sex workers, dancers are sex workers... basically, if your job involves one or more parties getting turned on, then you've got yourself a sex worker.
Looked it up on wikipedia. This checks out. I'm watching you... :0.
Do your parents know? If not, how do you think they would react if you told them you wrestle guys their age then jack them off? Well, for one, if I ever told them, I definitely wouldn't word it like that...
How have you maintained a steady income from this? I'm intrigued as I have indeed worked as a 'hooker' for income in the past. Would it not reach a point where your clients just wanted sex and got bored with the foreplay? For these guys it's not about the sex part of sex. A few of them have asked, and I've politely declined. It's an arbitrary personal boundary, but they always respect it nonetheless.
You know how what they say; the brain is the largest erogenous zone..
What is the cost of a session? $200, but customers often tip.
Since you're quite open minded and eager to experiment and you have started giving handjobs to special clients, is it possible that someday you might get ready to give head to them? Will your bf be ok with it too? I mean, maybe if I were doing this for a few more years, I guess the honest answer would be who knows? But I don't plan on being in the business too much longer to find out... then again, who knows.
How's that goin for ya? S'alright!
So is what you do pretty much what was featured on this episode of Strange Sex? Ha! Very nice.
What is the youngest and oldest you've wrestled? Youngest 20; oldest, I'm gonna hazard a guess at somewhere around 75.
Your original post makes you kind of sound like an insecure bitch. And now yours makes you sound like a judgmental prick =)
Why does someone hire you when they can hire a prostitute for near the same price (I assume) and have them do te same thing but also have sex. Excellent question.
I wonder that too, sometimes, but somehow the customers keep coming. I guess some men aren't comfortable working with an escort service or anything glaringly illegal; we're kind of like an escort service on training wheels. It makes them feel less guilty about the whole ordeal themselves.
No where in the description did you say you were into scat play. I'm just chock full of surprises, I guess.
Do you get turned on by this or at least enjoy it in a non sexual way or are you just used to it after all this time and its just a job now. I try to maintain a distance from my work, it makes it easier to separate from play. I do enjoy it, or I wouldn't still be doing it.
No seriously I need money for my sex workers.. they are hungry! Try letting them graze more often. Sex Workers need lots of open space to roam.
Also, any sort of rent you have to pay the place you work. that kind of stuff. My boss gets 50 out of the 200 we charge per session.
Preferences are a part of orientation. Interestingly, I've found that I've been much more interested in girls than I have in the past, but that could also be the product of growing up and getting to know myself better...
"no penetration" = not a sex worker. Not really, sex line operators are included in the umbrella sex worker category, and there's not even any physical contact.
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2012.11.02 06:03 compto35 How to approach the HB8 at the café?

Gentlemen and scholars, thank you for reading.
I just moved from (smallish town) East Lansing, MI to (big city) Brooklyn, NY in search of fame and fortune. What I've found so far is an HB8 working at the coffee shop on the corner of my street. What I've lost is my phone in the subway.
Since Sandy hit, I've been using this local café to do my work (I'm a Web developer usually working full time out of the Financial District), so I've been working there this week for like 5-6 hours at a time with my headphones in, just pumping out code (yes, I've been buying food/coffee, and yes I tip well…I figure the best way to pitch in on Sandy recovery efforts is to give business to my local restaurants/shops).
I'm usually there long enough to see baristas change shifts, and I know that it must be strange to see a guy just sitting in the corner hooked in to his computer for such inhuman amounts of time. I try not to close out the whole world, so I do look around, mainly just to rest my eyes from the screen, but every time HB8 is on shift, we make eye contact several times.
I don't hold my gaze for too long a time before I look away so as to not be the creeper staring her down from the corner, but I wouldn't say the eye contact is insignificant. Thing is, I'm not sure if the eye contact is an IOI, or just curiosity as to why I'm there so much and so often. (Next time, should I wink, or is that too much?)
I haven't talked to her directly yet, but I've started a rapport with some of the other girls in the shop, and I've been trying to get on a named basis with some of them. I know I've won over one of the other girls [I've no interest in her, HB4 and taken] (she saw over my shoulder that I was programming and gave me some lip, I joked that I might have to make her disappear because the project is actually supposed to be under wraps. The end of the conversation was her telling me I'm so smart and funny. She's since greeted me several times when I come in and she's working), so hopefully that can get me some DHV.
I want to approach her (HB8) next time she's working, but I'm not sure what angle I should take. Should I start with something along the lines of "You're probably wondering why I'm always here…" (obviously not ver batem)? Should I open with a joke and wait for her to bring up the whole frequent flyer thing? Should I make some reference to being a new guy in town, all dolled up with no idea where to go? Should I pull a middle school and ask the HB5 to snoop for me?
When I get the conversation going, how should I go about seeing her outside of work? I've no idea where anything is in the community or in the city, and I lost my phone in the subway this weekend. I was thinking an opportunistic date might be to find a way to volunteer for Sandy relief this weekend.
Oh, and on a side note, to New Yorkers what are some good things to do in Bensonhurst that don't require driving or public transit? I want to go adventuring, with or without a date, but I just have no idea where to go. I'd also be down for grabbing a beer or sarging with anyone in the area.
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