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24M, Is it wrong to be with a girl you dont find physically attractive?

2020.11.25 16:27 Tomokillakk 24M, Is it wrong to be with a girl you dont find physically attractive?

So ya I have never been in a relationship with a girl I've been basically rejected like over 150 times irl , and these rejections weren't from awkward and stupid cold approaches in public (like randomely appraoching a girl in a gym or bus stop). They were all from social gatherings with friends and acquaintances or places like bars and clubs were approaching girls is more accepted. I didn't approach particularly good looking girls either, usually average ones and overweight ones - no point in bothering attractive women. I don't punch above my wieght.
I'm 24 so i'm quite the outlier in terms of virginity, only like 5% of men are virgins at my age, and women it was like 3% or something. Anyway I tried online dating, and even online dating was more dreadful. I went to traveling with my friends recently and took nice updated pictures of myself in hq with a nice view and close clear pics of my face - pics that they recommended for Tinder.bumble etc .
So I made a new profile on bumble, hinge, tinder etc.. and got legit like 1 match like every two weeks from a girl who never responds, or sometimes they're just fake/bot profiles. Anyway online dating was an absolute failure. I mean I get 2 matches a month, while a girl gets like hundreds, and probably a minimum of like 20 messages. The probability that my 2 monthly matches will bring me anything is infinitely small - considering that I have to compete with hundreds of guys.
Anyway I have no signs of getting a girl yet, but by probability of an event being eternal rejection, is every small. Eventually I will get a "hit", even if the rejection rate is 0.99%, after 300 or so trials the probability of not a single success approaches zero. Thus I believe that I will eventually get a girl. But as they say, beggars cant be choosers, there's a good likelihood she won't be attractive (just like me).
tldr: I'm unattractive so I don't expect to be with a girl who I find attractive, simply by probability. But is that bad for a relationship? Am I bad for not telling her I find her unattractive? I constantly see women call their boyfriends "ugly" , so surely it's not bad right?
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2020.11.25 12:27 ZestycloseEngine I may have made a colossal, deadly mistake

This Autumn I moved to another country for my master degree, from southern europe to Scandinavia and a big city on the top of that. I actually made friends here but they are mostly exchange student that will be here for six months to a year while I am supposedly here to stay. Also most of them are in stable relationship, several years long in their home countries. But this is a mindless detail. The demographic in my programme is absurd, most of them my age (I'm 25, 25 year olds are the biggest group in my 22 people class and we are mostly between 23 and 25), an incredible number is living with their partner, 2 girls moved here with their partner and not sure how many guys are living with their girlfriend but more than one i think, I'm sure about one. Now, there's a pandemic going on and meeting new people and eventually dating outside apps has became virtually impossible even for good-looking people while...I'm fucking hideous. I was shocked by a girl from another country as well in our class that casually mentioned her boyfriend in a conversation because it was October and met him through tinder obviously...in two months is, this seem to be so easy and quick how??? Another guy in my class living with his girlfriend meet her through tinder obviously. It seems to work for everyone I meet except for me and this is driving me insane. I was also started to realize I was developing a crush on another classmate, I knew she was having a date (tinder) like half of october but after seeing her on the app one month later I was foolishly thinking there may have been a chance, we were texting a small bit already because she suggested me a book and stuff like that then one day she told me after we sort of landed on the topic that she just started dating someone and she kinda told me how this pandemic has been the loneliest period of her life and awful and that in the end she just ended up picking up "the best she could find" on tinder, she also acknowledges there is a disturbing inequality in dating apps as how easy it is for most women Vs how hard it is for most man. She also said that she thinks apps sucks for mostly everyone just in different ways, men almost never find someone that is even just shallowly into them, getting a date is a titanic challenge and matches too while for women and her at least it's incredibly hard to find someone willing to commit instead of just willing to casually fucking them/her (she said that she largely gave up on tinder but she is also dating someone from there?)
Now the part that sucks the most: I'm obviously using dating apps but not even getting matches, let alone chats and God forbid about dates, well, to tell the truth it's actually driving me insane and I remade my account 4 times in 3 months, last time I used it for about 20 days, I got a phone number from this country and used this change to reset my account, in 20 days I had three matches 2 with very dull profiles with dull photos that gave me no idea of what to talk about with them (they didn't even respond to the first message so who cares) and another one that was 1000+ km away (I swiped without even noticing the distance and that she wrote she was based in another country but I tried to text her and she even unmatched me so who cares again).
And last but not least, a couple of days ago, I switched to my old phone number and made a double check, I took some photos of a guy I only know from the Internet, everyone's says he is quite handsome but not a model or something and he will go impossible lengths denying he is way above average, I wrote under the profile that he was an exchange student here for a year and was on tinder because of Corona restrictions...well this guy (the profile was online for two or three hours only) got 6 matches and 4 likes in this brief period (with one even texting first!), on my hand I got 3 worthless matches and 1 like in 20 days, it was a catastrophe, it was humiliating, in a couple of hours a guy that was just average or slightly above average got results I would have to sell my soul to the devil to get in half a year or something. Meanwhile, last night I wasn't able to sleep and I remade my account for yeah the fourth time and after a whole night my profile is still standing at zero likes...in a very big city with tons of single young people where you will never run out of tinder profiles to swipe and thousands and thousands of people of all kinds with all kinds of tastes on that app. I can't really talk to anyone I know about this, I can't really vent with anyone that no one may be able to be physically attracted to me, it's objective, but these are dangerous times to vent about this, I will end up being automatically labeled as a mysoginistic violent nazi that wants to hurt women or something, spat in the face and further isolated. Perhaps I made a colossal mistake coming in another country where people both man and women are renowned for being some of the most attractive on the planet, I was already a subhuman in mine, I would have told you that I would have done my best to stay here in the future because I'm not gonna lie I like it a lot, I like what I'm studying and I wouldn't want to be in another place right now (all of the previous vent excluding) but maybe this place doesn't want me at all and it is doing its best for repelling me. Probably if I cannot vent about this with people outside strangers on the internet it means that I am actually supposed to turn into a bitter, hateful, violent, mysoginistic and bloodthirsty monster and this is now inescapable, actually I may have to kill myself in the future just for preventing me from harming other people that have no fault in this. I just really cannot accept that this is it, these problems are as simple as they are impossible to solve, no amount of "work" could be able to fix that. I keep wondering about "what the fuck is wrong with me" but I perfectly know that, everyone knows.
Jeez, what a wall of text
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2020.11.25 09:26 throwaway191106 Why do I find it so difficult to not be bored?

I don't know if it's just me, I'm a female (25) so I guess I'd like to hear a man's perspective but ladies are welcome to respond too. And I suppose I'm mainly wanting to hear from people who have a similar vibe. Let me try to explain what I mean.
I have a fairly witty, sometimes dark sense of humour. I often make fun of certain things/people which really aren't funny or could be considered "risky" to joke about, but only with people who I see can take it, I make sure that they are a participant of the joke and at the same time I never miss an opportunity to take the piss out of myself. By this I mean I'm never purposefully nasty to anyone (not in their face nor behind their back) and I am very aware of these jokes I make, if I ever even slightly believe that someone might have been hurt about it I will apologise immediately.
An example of this that springs to mind is a guy I went out with who was a bit older (only 8 years) and we both joked about him being a grandpa or even a paedo (obviously this can be triggering for some people, I completely understand that and I would pick my audience for a joke like this very carefully). We had great banter, like him having girls in his basement working for him, never seeing the light of day, me being hired by these girls to murder him and that being why I went on a date with him. And other really fucking random stuff like that which is triggered by the environment or the conversation (like when we were in a restaurant and there was police outside so he said they're there to deport me) and it's this funny randomness that I'm trying to explain.
Now to my point. I find it extremely difficult to "hit it off" with someone in this way. I don't normally initiate this randomness and it's usually men who see this part of me and sort of... "Nurture" it? As in they give me this "way in", like they initiate it and are happy to keep it going and have a laugh together. With girl friends this doesn't happen often.
I've been talking to many men on dating apps recently and they're all just such boring conversations. I get that we have to get to know each other but... It gets to the point of just talking about the weather? And I didn't even know the guy above that much either, this banter just started (the first thing I said to him though was, literally, just "sosig" because he had a t-shirt with the meme on in the profile so I suppose I sort of initiated it?).
Is this something that men also struggle to find in women or am I just a weirdo and this isn't something that men even look for in a woman at all? Also, am I being unreasonable? I know it's just not for everyone but is it really this rare?
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2020.11.25 08:30 Holiday-Gur7236 Boyfriend may have cheated but I’m staying- kind of a long read

Hello all, before I (24M) address this I have a few disclosures. I am staying with my boyfriend. I am a jealous guy, I don’t say it to sound cute, but I am and it can get ugly. I have been cheated on, a former love of mine passed away after he came out and we were making plans to make things official, and much more. I am charred but I have been getting help through it all for years and I have built myself and it has NOT been easy. But I am strong!! And as a therapist (not my current one, but another one) has told me that “people nowadays get rid of things that crack or break and don’t work to get them fixed. They just replace them. Like technology, like relationships.” And that’s why I am staying, because we are new and I do love him and I’m going to give him the benefit of the doubt,even though I..well let’s jump in shall we?
So I’m going to give you all the whole story: my bf (24M, also) and I met in June, but have had surface level chats on Grindr since last year. We started dating and even took a trip to a town 3 hours away one weekend to go to a drive in, stay at a hotel, eat great food. So romantic. Mind you we aren’t official, he asks me how I’d feel about having lunch with a friend, we will call him Ken (remember this for later). They apparently have a history together but are only friends. F it, whatever no explanations needed you’re not my bf yet so go. But when the time came about a month later I asked him where things were going, he said he wanted to be in an open relationship. I don’t want to share nor be shared- no intention. So I told him I don’t want to sacrifice what I want, nor should he, so we called it quits and two weeks later we went out to dinner and he told me he changed his mind but wanted to take things slow.
Fast forward, we started meeting family. Like immediately! 😳 I’m not one to introduce my parents to my significant other lightly. But about a week after I said well are we gonna make it Facebook official? Neither of us is in the closet, there’s nothing to hide. But he gave me a hard time and came up with some lame ass excuse. He finally said let’s do it after going out to a nice dinner.
Then, I caught from the corner of my eye: Tinder, on his phone. Asked him why he still had it and he said it was just for friends. So I let it be, told myself maybe I’m overreacting..maybe I’m overthinking it. But nope. I went and unleashed a text saying something along the lines of “I understand you want to find friends and I want you to find some, but here are 3 major things that should have been changed if your intentions line up: 1. Your bio and profile pics should be changed. You don’t need to flaunt your body around for platonic friends. 2. Did you delete previous matches that you may or may not have done stuff with? 3. Did you set the settings to men AND women?” Besides the bio, nothing changed. But I after I told him let me go on Grindr because shoot it’s a dating app too, but people use that to find friends all of the time! He deleted it.
And to now. We both had weddings this month. I had one at the beginning of the month (my cousin). And he had two. One of which was two weekends ago, he was invited himself as he is friends with the bride. However, and this is where Ken comes back- he was invited as a plus one to a cousin of Ken’s wedding. That’s not what has me shamefully writing this post. It’s the fact that they stayed together in a hotel room that night. Mind you he drove buzzed from the last wedding home to me; and he was sober at the end of this one. I told him before he went I was not comfortable with the fact that he was going to stay the night. I got jealous and he told me to calm down. The night of the wedding came. I didn’t want to pester him so I hardly texted him, actually at all. He then told me he was in the hotel. Ignored two FaceTime calls and then called me while eating Zaxby’s. I told him “let me let you eat, I’ll talk after”. He responded with, “well he’s in the shower rn, I’m gonna shower after so he can eat. And then we’re gonna hang out, and I think it’s rude to ignore him.” And I said “then include him. I don’t want to watch you eat. I’ll talk to you after.” And he showered and when I called more than twice he said “were talking, making plans for the morning & breakfast, I’ll talk to you on my drive back”. It was 10pm. He wasn’t driving back until at least 10am. Sus af. And he stopped answering.
That was Sunday night, today is Tuesday. Last night I sat him after his 4-11pm shift (he’s a server and I know this mf was tired lol) and I ripped into him about how I felt, how I’m jealous because I care, how his actions completely contradict what he says, why he asked for approval when we weren’t even together but now it’s not relevant ESPECIALLY when staying along in a hotel room, etc and he agreed. But he swears up and down, even on the lives of his grandmother & niece that he loves very much that he didn’t cheat, and apologized saying it wasn’t his intention to cause me so much harm or how it came off. And the thing is, I don’t believe him. But I want to. I love him.
I’m not stupid, but love does cause you to do stupid things. Even if he did or didn’t cheat it happened. I just need some advice how to go forward. What can he and I do? What should I do to build trust again? What should he do?
If you read and did calculations, we’ve been dating for 5 months and officially for 1.5. It isn’t long which is why I’m so pressed that we’re having these problems so soon.
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2020.11.25 08:02 Affectionate-Word-54 Am I wrong in thinking that my race is a big hindrance?

Background: late 20s, middle eastern, straight male, big city, 6ft, fit, born and raised in USA.
I've struggled a lot in life with getting dates/women interested in me; both when living in small towns and in big cities. I attribute this to my race and my own preferences in women.
On dating apps when swiping while being selective I get nearly no matches. However I start swiping right (almost) indiscriminately I do end up getting many matches. Almost all of these matches are, to put it bluntly, people who I don't find attractive (due to weight).
Apart from weight I don't think I'm very picky when it comes to looks.
I'm a fairly good catch on paper (well educated, physically fit, range of hobbies). Asking my friends for feedback hasn't resulted in anything. My app profiles are good (at least based on the feedback I've received). Asking former dates/lovers has actually left me feeling good (they had mostly nice things to say). That makes sense to me, given that they were interested to begin with.
So, is it reasonable to "pin" my dating problems on my race? Are middle eastern men seen as less attractive?
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2020.11.25 03:43 thelonewolfmonk Think you can lie like nothing?

I thought this could also serve as a confession for one of the most pathetic things I've done in my life. TL;DR at bottom.
Anyway, some weeks ago I decided to try this dating app after a break up that just left me missing my ex so damn much. Why not date to move on? So I created my profile and started meeting a couple of women. Among then, Kathya.
Kathya and I dated pretty quickly. It was funny how I just told her "hey, would love to hang out and maybe get some seafood?" and she was like "OMG! I LOVE SEAFOOD!" and so I picked her up at her place without knowing absolutely nothing about each other, but she was a pretty nice sweet girl. So we went to have a nice dinner at this seafood restaurant and we had a very great time laughing, sharing our goals, and having a great chemistry. Then I drove her to her place. We talked some more and I just felt this vibe from her that she was as attracted to me as I was to her and we ended up kissing.
However, after kissing I was honest to her that I only wanted to have a good time. She asked me "so, you only want me to be your dessert?" and I said "Ha, ha, honestly, yeah" she just noded and said "okay". I thought she seemed fine with it since we continued kissing for a long time before she left.
Two days later she messaged me that she would like to hang out and I was like "okay! let's go for some dinner and maybe after that we could get some dessert ;) " but she said "I'm actually really tired, I would like to just have some dinner, talk a bit and sleep early because I have to wake up very early tomorrow". I was okay with that since I understand that most women just need more time to get to know the guy before having sex. But then she said "Hey, let's go to B restaurant" and I was like "mmmmhhh, really?". This was a place that I mentioned during our first date that I loved to go since it had the BEST steak cuts in the city and she told me that she wanted to try it out since she grew curious about it. I thought it was very bold of her to ask me to go there and I felt just a tiny bit uncomfortable, but since I had no reason to suspect anything I agreed and we dined there.
When the time to pay arrived I asked her if she would mind helping me by tipping the waiter and she just said that she had no money with her and left her credit card in another wallet, but that next time she would invite and pay for the dinner. I was fine with that, I love it when a woman has at least the consideration of inviting the next meal.
After the dinner I took her home, talked a little bit and we kissed again very passionately. I even tried to convince her to go to my place a little bit but she refused. Okay, no prob.
Next day I texted her. Nothing...
Next day? Again no signs of her... messages weren't even read.
Next day? Nothing.
After almost a week it downed on me that she just fking ghosted me.
Now, I can completely understand if a woman is not interested in dating a guy who's only for a casual hang out, I've been rejected many times because of this and I pay no mind to it since I'm always honest about it. But why the hell wouldn't she just say that she's not interested like any other normal woman instead of giving false ideas AND taking advantage to get a free meal out of me to then ghost me? I was effing pissed.
Now, given my mental state of semi depression and some bottled up anger issues, I just created another Tinder profile with another attractive guy who seemed to have lots of money and traveled a lot, looked up for her and voila! matched with her!
After that I just played the role of a guy who was deeply intrigued with her, shared the same interests as her, made her talk about the things she loved the most and get her interested enough to date this made up personae who, like her, loved Harry Potter, traveling, etc. I arranged a date with her the next day to her favorite place and offered to pick her up. The next day came and a couple of hours before the date, I messaged her and told her if we could meet up in this place since an emergency came up and my sister had to take my car to take her children to the doctor (I have no sister), so I had to move by taxi. Surprisingly, she agreed.
Then the hour came but she sent no message. I messaged her asking where she was and replied that she was just about to get out of her house. Perfect, she will be late, so I thought I could use that as an excuse. All I had to do was just wait.
She finally texted that she arrived and asking where I was.
"I'm home I got tired of waiting."
"...what?"
"Yeah, I asked you to arrive at this hour and you arrived way too late."
"But I live far away!"
"Well, too bad. I'm leaving."
"But why? I'm just arriving!"
"I don't care. I'm already home. Bye."
Sorry that this potential sugar daddy dissapointed you, babe. I hope now that liar feels the anger I felt for taking advantage and giving false expectations.
Was my revenge super petty? I think so. Childish? yeah. Pathetic? Absolutely. I wouldn't do it again, but I won't like that I enjoyed imagining her face of dissapointement and anger for not getting that other free meal from her very favorite place and having to go all the way back to her house with an empty stomach.
TL;DR: A girl I met lied to me just to get a free meal and ghosted me. Then I created a fake profile to get her interest, invite her to her favorite place and cancel her just to annoy her.
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2020.11.25 02:20 karidot dating app blues

i’m single for basically the first time since i was like 16/17 years old, and decided to give dating apps a try. i’ve really been liking the app Her, but i feel like it’s impossible to find someone who i feel i’m compatible with.
i’m kind of surprised how common it is to smoke? i really didn’t think many people did, but almost every single profile i check the girl says she regularly smokes cigarettes or weed. the other issue i’m running into is i’m very adamantly child free. i don’t have or ever want any children, but the vast majority of accounts say they already have children, want them in the future, or are unsure. i’m not comfortable dating someone who isn’t 100% certain they don’t want children for fear that they’ll decide they want them years into dating.
i don’t really have the option of meeting women irl due to covid, but i also live in a small town in the south. i feel like i’m never gonna get a gf 😔
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2020.11.25 02:09 EmmalineMadly 34T4A Seeking kinky gaming friends and play partners - online to start.

Trans gal here - 2 months on hormones, queer, poly, nerdy. I'm hoping to make some online contacts who can be play partners, friends or romantic D/s connections next year. Next month I'm gonna be buckling down for COVID and traveling for Christmas so this is a good time to get to know folks and find some people to spend time with online. I love games and game design, so the best way to meet me and say hello is to chat and play with me this holiday season. Interested in couples, women, trans, and queer boys, largely equally but mostly in that order.
I'm a social introvert but I'm generally quite good at communication and negotiation. I put a lot of effort into getting out and meeting people to keep sane, even though I'm at my best cuddled up under warm blankets with a TV show or hanging in a living room with a board game. Good relationships and good kink are both important to me. I would describe myself as calm, respectful, empathetic, quiet, and terribly, terribly cute :3.
If you're interested in dates or play, know I'm quite kinky and subby. I made a [Fetlife profile](https://fetlife.com/EmmalineMadly) for online excursions that's about half finished at this point (and includes a picture) as well as outlines some of my kinks, which broadly include rope, sensation, D/s, light humiliation, orgasm denial/control and just generally being really slutty and submissive to those that earn my trust. While I do switch, my top half is not apparating these past few months so it would be more of a service thing if it happened.
I write a lot, and I'm a picky one about messages, I love people who can write and I find grammar sexy. Give me a paragraph about who you are, why we should chat, what kind of shenanigans you'd like to get up to. Since the goal here is to meet people for next year I will want to do voice and video/see pictures of you, etc. Send me "hey" and you will not get a response.
Games: I play on PC almost exclusively, but have a Switch for Smash. I don't love MMO's as a rule, but I play roguelikes, shooters, RPG's, digital board games and most anything co-op under the sun. Some things I've been playing lately: Tabletop Simulator (mostly Arkham Card Game and Legacy games) Apex Legends/battle royales Overwatch League of Legends Teamfight Tactics/autochess games Divinity: Original Sin 2 Hunt: Showdown
If you have a cool suggestion I might have heard of it! Hope to chat with you soon.
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2020.11.25 01:43 yousaveyou Valid turn-off? Should I have cut this guy loose?

So I matched with someone and went on a date with him. It was pretty good - we actually had pretty good chemistry, kissed, etc.
I followed up a few days later and asked if he'd like to meet again. He said yeah and we made plans to make some dinner together at his place. Daily texting in-between and overall fine.
The night before the second date, he starts sexting me (which I had no problem with, tho it's not something I do often). We were discussing what turns us on the most. It was actually great until...He mentioned stuff he'd done with a girl he hooked up with in the last few months. Like, explicitly stating what a slut she was and how he loves when women are openly slutty and very sexually liberated (sleep around, etc). He said that she was "riding him while showing him all her sexts with other guys" and then...Well, more details lol.
I told him I had really enjoyed our convo until that moment and just politely said good night...Tbh it kinda hurt my feelings that he thought that would've been sexy to bring up lol. The more I thought it over, the less I wanted to go on our second date. He seemed to feel genuinely bad and apologized a lot but I guess I wanted to go with my gut. He was surprised and called me silly for cutting him off, etc. I admit I started to second guess myself after that.
To add a little more context - within our first few message exchanges on the app before even meeting, he did try to sext with me (although his profile told a completely diff story of how he's a "great catch, gives good conversation, wants a girl who puts in as much effort as him" etc. He stopped when I eventually asked him if he's just looking for something casual - at which point we did make plans to meet. He said he doesn't date just to date. (But I guess he does hook up with people?)
[EDIT] Also he told his mom we went on a date and she was already doing my astrological birth chart for him to see if I'm a good match....Uhhh. Idk what to think about that. Doesn't help that she told him that "Geminis are known to be cold and unstable" 🙄 My dating life is a series of jokes at my expense lol.
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2020.11.25 01:38 dgYens Ghosted after 7 month relationship?

Get ready, this might be long.
A wonderful girl I met earlier this year has completely ghosted me after what i thought was a serious relationship.. I am heartbroken. And i am no longer afraid to admit that.
She was petite and super nerdy, but in the prettiest way possible. My type in every way possible. This god sent woman would do my laundry whenever she came over. I remember once she cleaned my kitchen for me and made my bed as i took a dump. We’re both 19, (im a dude btw) had me feeling like i found the one fr. I loved this girl. To say the least.
Things started out kind of weird. At least to me. We met on tinder (how ironic) and we talked for almost 2 weeks before she finally turned on read receipts and basically asked me out on a date. Our first date was at a cute swamp where she’d told me very blatantly that this was her usual tinder date spot. Next thing I know we’re in the parking lot and she was all over me trying to make out. And i rejected her and asked if we could slow down a bit. I dont want to talk about these stupid details but i think its good context maybe? Also remember this for later: she told me a couple times that she usually likes to have summer flings in between semesters.
About a month later we had been seeing each other almost every day since she was home from school. i had formally met her parents, just her mom. I introduced her to mine a couple weeks after that. I had thought i was in a pretty healthy relationship in all honesty. One thing i will point out is that we never argued. Not once. We’re both pretty agreeable people and rather work things out instead of arguing like children.
My life at this point had gone from great, to not so great in the span of a couple months. Im not here to bore you with the details but long story short: I lost my job, car got repossessed, license got suspended, credit card debt was just thrown into my lap. All while i dealt with the stress of my mom who is extremely sick.
I do admit, all this Bs had started to get to me.
My girlfriend is very insecure, emotional, and all around kind of sensitive. This is not me trying to be a dick but shes the one who be very vocal about how insecure she was. She would always tell me that she wasn’t good enough or beautiful enough to be with me. She would constantly compare herself to my exes that shes never even seen and try to get me to say things that reassured her doubts. Looking back at it now i was completely oblivious to her complaints. And i think its the reason why all this happened in the first place. There were a few times where i had said things about other women that would hurt her, even if it wasn’t something I genuinely meant. For example, literally anything that had to do with the way they look. I guess i never realized that i would never compliment her like that either. I struggle to show affection physically and thats always been something she said she understood. She was the complete opposite and showed me affection like nobody probably ever will. Writing this is making my chest hurt, i start to open my eyes and see that i could’ve been so much better to her. I was so wrapped in my own problems i failed to do my part as a boyfriend. And this very thought is what hurts the most every morning.
Fast forward to last week,( and sorry i know this has been long but i have no friends irl and cant talk to anyone about this, its been eating me alive) she randomly texted me that she thinks we should go our separate ways because,
“ 1. You’re definitely interested in other people. 2. I don’t want to be with someone who’s faking their feelings for me.”
This broke me.I tried asking her to elaborate and she sends me a screenshot. It was a screenshot of a 4 text long stupid conversation where im saying “i was trying to f*** my ex until she called me white trash”. This conversation was one I had with my friend who lived in my old city. The message was in response to one he sent saying “bro zoe wont leave you unless you do something”. Yea it looks terrible on my end but it was a conversation me and him were having thru ps4 and instagram Dms simultaneously. Also it was taken from my instagram profile. She had logged in to my social medias and i guess found that shred of evidence that she’d probably been looking for a while.
This is definitely not something im proud of. Granted, the conversation was banter between two online buddies who are both males in their 19s. Obviously i was not trying to f*** my ex as i dont even live in that city anymore and I was in a ‘serious’ relationship.
She swiftly blocked me on everything. Without giving me a chance to at least explain myself. I know im in the wrong for what she saw. But i really wanted to explain to her that i have no desire/intent to be unfaithful or hurt her. I managed to get her to respond on whatsapp after trying everything from email to my work phone, and my moms phone too. We had a few back and forth conversations about the events that lead up to her ghosting me. I begged her so hard to not throw away this relationship that we both spent time building. She told me that her decision is final. I find it weird that this is happening after i lose everything, and shes back home after her semester in college. Today was the last conversation i had with her. After pleading with her and begging for forgiveness and a second chance to do better now that i was aware of my faults she told me that shes blocking me and that i shouldnt try to contact her ever again. She was so cold to me, and this is one of the nicest and most kindhearted person ive ever met. Its almost like she was ready for another fling or had some sort of back up plan prepared for her break in between semesters. The way she broke things off made it seem like we were just casually seeing each other. The way she had no remorse for her decisions, not even considering a 2nd chance to take things slow and work out our issues like we had previously done before.
Im fucking wrecked. I feel so fucking terrible. I cant sleep or eat, and i work two jobs and am studying CS. I barely get time for either one of those things as it is.
Zoe, if by any chance you stumble upon this. I just want to let you know how much i loved you. I sucked at showing it, and struggled to meet your basic needs as my girlfriend. Im so fucking sorry. And i love you no matter how you feel about me now. Sorry reddit, i needed to get this out.
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2020.11.25 01:34 dgYens Ghosted after 7 month long relationship?

Get ready, this might be long.
A wonderful girl I met earlier this year has completely ghosted me after what i thought was a serious relationship.. I am heartbroken. And i am no longer afraid to admit that.
She was petite and super nerdy, but in the prettiest way possible. My type in every way possible. This god sent woman would do my laundry whenever she came over. I remember once she cleaned my kitchen for me and made my bed as i took a dump. We’re both 19, (im a dude btw) had me feeling like i found the one fr. I loved this girl. To say the least.
Things started out kind of weird. At least to me. We met on tinder (how ironic) and we talked for almost 2 weeks before she finally turned on read receipts and basically asked me out on a date. Our first date was at a cute swamp where she’d told me very blatantly that this was her usual tinder date spot. Next thing I know we’re in the parking lot and she was all over me trying to make out. And i rejected her and asked if we could slow down a bit. I dont want to talk about these stupid details but i think its good context maybe? Also remember this for later: she told me a couple times that she usually likes to have summer flings in between semesters.
About a month later we had been seeing each other almost every day since she was home from school. i had formally met her parents, just her mom. I introduced her to mine a couple weeks after that. I had thought i was in a pretty healthy relationship in all honesty. One thing i will point out is that we never argued. Not once. We’re both pretty agreeable people and rather work things out instead of arguing like children.
My life at this point had gone from great, to not so great in the span of a couple months. Im not here to bore you with the details but long story short: I lost my job, car got repossessed, license got suspended, credit card debt was just thrown into my lap. All while i dealt with the stress of my mom who is extremely sick.
I do admit, all this Bs had started to get to me.
My girlfriend is very insecure, emotional, and all around kind of sensitive. This is not me trying to be a dick but shes the one who be very vocal about how insecure she was. She would always tell me that she wasn’t good enough or beautiful enough to be with me. She would constantly compare herself to my exes that shes never even seen and try to get me to say things that reassured her doubts. Looking back at it now i was completely oblivious to her complaints. And i think its the reason why all this happened in the first place. There were a few times where i had said things about other women that would hurt her, even if it wasn’t something I genuinely meant. For example, literally anything that had to do with the way they look. I guess i never realized that i would never compliment her like that either. I struggle to show affection physically and thats always been something she said she understood. She was the complete opposite and showed me affection like nobody probably ever will. Writing this is making my chest hurt, i start to open my eyes and see that i could’ve been so much better to her. I was so wrapped in my own problems i failed to do my part as a boyfriend. And this very thought is what hurts the most every morning.
Fast forward to last week,( and sorry i know this has been long but i have no friends irl and cant talk to anyone about this, its been eating me alive) she randomly texted me that she thinks we should go our separate ways because,
“ 1. You’re definitely interested in other people. 2. I don’t want to be with someone who’s faking their feelings for me.”
This broke me.I tried asking her to elaborate and she sends me a screenshot. It was a screenshot of a 4 text long stupid conversation where im saying “i was trying to f*** my ex until she called me white trash”. This conversation was one I had with my friend who lived in my old city. The message was in response to one he sent saying “bro zoe wont leave you unless you do something”. Yea it looks terrible on my end but it was a conversation me and him were having thru ps4 and instagram Dms simultaneously. Also it was taken from my instagram profile. She had logged in to my social medias and i guess found that shred of evidence that she’d probably been looking for a while.
This is definitely not something im proud of. Granted, the conversation was banter between two online buddies who are both males in their 19s. Obviously i was not trying to f*** my ex as i dont even live in that city anymore and I was in a ‘serious’ relationship.
She swiftly blocked me on everything. Without giving me a chance to at least explain myself. I know im in the wrong for what she saw. But i really wanted to explain to her that i have no desire/intent to be unfaithful or hurt her. I managed to get her to respond on whatsapp after trying everything from email to my work phone, and my moms phone too. We had a few back and forth conversations about the events that lead up to her ghosting me. I begged her so hard to not throw away this relationship that we both spent time building. She told me that her decision is final. I find it weird that this is happening after i lose everything, and shes back home after her semester in college. Today was the last conversation i had with her. After pleading with her and begging for forgiveness and a second chance to do better now that i was aware of my faults she told me that shes blocking me and that i shouldnt try to contact her ever again. She was so cold to me, and this is one of the nicest and most kindhearted person ive ever met. Its almost like she was ready for another fling or had some sort of back up plan prepared for her break in between semesters. The way she broke things off made it seem like we were just casually seeing each other. The way she had no remorse for her decisions, not even considering a 2nd chance to take things slow and work out our issues like we had previously done before.
Im fucking wrecked. I feel so fucking terrible. I cant sleep or eat, and i work two jobs and am studying CS. I barely get time for either one of those things as it is.
Zoe, if by any chance you stumble upon this. I just want to let you know how much i loved you. I sucked at showing it, and struggled to meet your basic needs as my girlfriend. Im so fucking sorry. And i love you no matter how you feel about me now. Sorry reddit, i needed to get this out.
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2020.11.25 01:28 SWGalaxysEdge ** Wed 11/25 - Christmas TV listings - ALL CHANNELS **

** 1 MONTH UNTIL CHRISTMAS! *\*
all listings are Eastern USA - check your local listings.
Prancer Returns Tomorrow, 12:00 AM / FAM-E 52 When an eight-year-old boy finds a baby reindeer, he believes that it is one of Santa Clau's reindeer, named Prancer, and he wants to return him to the North Pole in time for Christmas Eve, thus teaching his family the true meaning of Christmas.
Nostalgic Christmas Tomorrow, 12:00 AM / HALLMV 84 When a woman visits the small town in Maine where she grew up, she learns that her dad is set to sell his toy store and retire from his wood-carving career, also the town's lumber mill is up for sale, possibly making this her last Christmas there.
A Twist of Christmas Tomorrow, 12:01 AM / LIF-E 38 A single mother fears her son's Christmas is ruined when she accidentally mixes up his presents with the daughter of a lawyer, who she despises, but the pair find themselves falling in love as they try to sort out the gifts.
A Christmas Duet Tomorrow, 12:03 AM / HALMRK 68 A music duo who decided to go their separate ways many years ago is brought back together through fate at a lodge in a town in Vermont, and it seems the magic of Christmas might be just enough to reunite the pair once again.
A Very Harold & Kumar 3D Christmas Tomorrow, 1:25 AM / HBO 201 After accidentally burning down Harold's father-in-law's prize Christmas tree, Harold and Kumar embark on a quest to find the perfect replacement in New York City, but along the way, they run into all types of trouble blocking their path.
The Cleveland Show - Murray Christmas Tomorrow, 1:30 AM / BET 71 Rallo's teacher forces him to spend a weekend at a retirement home in order to know the senior citizens better, and while he is there, he learns about Hanukkah and tries to help one of the residents rekindle his holiday spirit by escaping.
A Family Christmas Gift Tomorrow, 2:00 AM / HALLMV 84 A woman spends the holidays with her aunt, and she helps plan a fundraising Christmas concert, which brings her closer to her aunt and a new love into her life.
A Welcome Home Christmas Tomorrow, 2:04 AM / LIF-E 38 While supporting her local military chapter's Christmas toy drive, a woman is partnered with a veteran who has recently returned home, and as they organize the annual Christmas ball for the kids, they begin to form a special bond with each other.
Die Hard (Yes! Its a Christmas movie!) Tomorrow, 2:45 AM / HBO2 202 A New York cop, who is visiting Los Angeles, finds himself pitted against a group of ruthless terrorists who have taken a large number of hostages in a high-rise office building, and he is forced to fight for their survival alone.
Girlfriends - You Better Watch Out Tomorrow, 3:00 AM / BET J 107 Stan surprises Maya by giving her a very expensive watch for Christmas, but when the well-meaning Joan encourages her to give the timepiece back to him, she refuses to do so because she absolutely loves the valuable gift.
Love Always, Santa Tomorrow, 4:00 AM / HALLMV 84 A sweet young girl who lost her father on Christmas three years ago and whose mother has never truly recovered since decides to write a letter to Santa Claus in hopes the he can find her mother find true happiness once again.
Christmas in Homestead Tomorrow, 4:03 AM / HALMRK 68 A famous actress comes to a Christmas-obsessed small town in Iowa to shoot a holiday-themed movie and is surprised to find herself falling for a local innkeeper who is also a single father as she receives a lesson in the true meaning of Christmas.
A Very Harold & Kumar 3D Christmas Tomorrow, 4:25 AM / HBOWAL 208 After accidentally burning down Harold's father-in-law's prize Christmas tree, Harold and Kumar embark on a quest to find the perfect replacement in New York City, but along the way, they run into all types of trouble blocking their path.
The Ren & Stimpy Show - Son of Stimpy Tomorrow, 5:30 AM / THEN 140 When the duo catches the Christmas spirit from an unusual new friend, who later mysteriously disappears, they are left confused and sad.
Love That Girl! - Twas the Night Before Christmas Tomorrow, 5:40 AM / TVONE 146 When a storm on Christmas Eve traps the gang in the condo, everyone is forced to make the most out of the situation and learn to get along, until they learn that Delroy's bus was in an accident on the way to Las Vegas for his trip.
Die Hard Tomorrow, 5:45 AM / HBO2W 209 A New York cop, who is visiting Los Angeles, finds himself pitted against a group of ruthless terrorists who have taken a large number of hostages in a high-rise office building, and he is forced to fight for their survival alone.
Christmas Joy Tomorrow, 6:00 AM / HALMRK 68 When a market researcher is about to receive a promotion at work, she is unexpectedly called home to help her aunt recover from surgery, but she soon finds herself participating in a local baking competition with her former flame.
Christmas Everlasting Tomorrow, 6:00 AM / HALLMV 84 When a woman gets exciting news that she has received a promotion at her law firm, she believes she is about to have the best Christmas, but when she learns that her sister has died, she is forced to return home to deal with an eccentric will.
Sonic Christmas Blast Tomorrow, 6:38 AM / ENCORFM 378 Dr. Robotnik decides to take over for a retiring Santa Claus, but it is up to Sonic to save Christmas when he learns that the robot villain is beginning to steal every gift on the planet instead of spreading the holiday cheer.
The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air - Deck the Halls Tomorrow, 7:00 AM / BET 71 Will decides to celebrate his first Christmas at the Banks household by decorating the entire place with bright lights and garish holiday adornments, but the family's wealthy neighbors aren't happy about the blemish on their upper-class neighborhood.
Mom - Foot Powder and the Barrelworks Pirates Tomorrow, 7:30 AM / FXX 82 Christy stumbles upon information that suggests Adam has been hiding something from Bonnie while she was looking for a Secret Santa gift; Tammy tries to prevent herself from being sent back to prison by looking for a job.
Christmas Stars Tomorrow, 8:00 AM / LIF-E 38 A bartender with a talent for writing lyrics befriends an aspiring R&B artist, who helps her reach her goal of getting a record deal, but their friendship is tested when the label executives appear to be more interested in her ability to write songs.
Reunited at Christmas Tomorrow, 8:00 AM / HALMRK 68 When a family comes together for Christmas, a woman accepts her boyfriend's proposal in front of all of her loved ones, but when the woman admits her true feelings, her new fiancé finds himself forced to play out a façade during the holiday.
Keeping Up with the Kardashians - Family Matters Tomorrow, 8:00 AM / ETV-E 70 The family fights over holiday plans when Kim reveals she doesnt want to host the annual Christmas party; Scott is reunited with a relative from his past and struggles to discuss his parents; Khloe fills in as Kriss assistant and causes drama.
Pinocchio's Christmas Tomorrow, 9:00 AM / AMCALL 64 In Pinocchio's attempts to earn money for Christmas presents, a series of events find him as a part of a Marionette show, escaping into the Forest of Enchantment with a girl puppet and sold as a toy for kids, where only Santa's reindeer can save him.
Sonic Christmas Blast Tomorrow, 9:38 AM / WAM-W 389 Dr. Robotnik decides to take over for a retiring Santa Claus, but it is up to Sonic to save Christmas when he learns that the robot villain is beginning to steal every gift on the planet instead of spreading the holiday cheer.
On Strike for Christmas Tomorrow, 10:00 AM / LIF-E 38 Tired of the years they have spent preparing for Christmas by cooking, cleaning, buying gifts and more, with little help from their husbands, the women of a small town led by a fed-up wife go on strike and refuse to do the work this year.
A Christmas Melody Tomorrow, 10:00 AM / HALLMV 84 After closing her boutique in the city, a single mother returns to her hometown with her young daughter, who tries to get ready for a holiday performance with her new music teacher's help while her mother contends with a rival from her past.
Prancer Returns Tomorrow, 10:30 AM / FAM-E 52 When an eight-year-old boy finds a baby reindeer, he believes that it is one of Santa Clau's reindeer, named Prancer, and he wants to return him to the North Pole in time for Christmas Eve, thus teaching his family the true meaning of Christmas.
Sabrina, the Teenage Witch - Sabrina Claus Tomorrow, 10:30 AM / FUSE 109 After Sabrina develops a mild case of "egotitis," her aunts introduce her to a man named Bob who is actually Santa Claus; when Santa is injured, Sabrina must fill in for him by delivering all the world's presents on Christmas Eve.
Malcolm in the Middle - Pearl Harbor Tomorrow, 11:30 AM / FUSE 109 Malcolm and Reese fall victim to a scheme perpetrated by their neighbor who convinces them both they're gay and has them embark to a musical together; Hal gets fed up with competing over Christmas decorations and invents a new holiday.
Dear Secret Santa Tomorrow, 12:00 PM / LIF-E 38 When a young woman named Jennifer moves back into her childhood home, she's immediately reminded of Jack, an old friend who's recently passed away, and thoughts of him only increase when Jennifer begins to receive curious Christmas cards in the mail.
The Sweetest Christmas Tomorrow, 12:00 PM / HALMRK 68 When a struggling pastry chef makes it to the finals of a baking competition, her excitement is dissipated by the news that her oven has broken down, so reaches out to her ex-boyfriend to use his pizzeria oven to craft her winning confections.
A Veteran's Christmas Tomorrow, 12:00 PM / HALLMV 84 After a Marine is honorably discharged, she becomes stranded in a small town when her jeep breaks down on her way to Cincinnati, but when a local judge offers her a place to stay, the two find themselves falling in love.
Homemade Christmas Tomorrow, 2:00 PM / LIF-E 38 An ambitious freelance assistant is given an opportunity to save a Christmas party and impress the man she has a crush on, but as Christmas gets closer she begins to develop feelings for another guy, and she struggles to make a choice between them.
The King of Queens - Net Prophets Tomorrow, 2:00 PM / CMTV 45 Doug receives a sizeable bonus for Christmas, and Carrie refuses to entertain any option besides investment; Arthur gets into a heated competition with the neighbors over which of them can build the biggest yard ornament for the holidays.
A Merry Christmas Match Tomorrow, 2:00 PM / HALLMV 84 A young woman lives in a popular ski village and also works at a local antique shop, and when a young man, who was recently named as a "Christmas Catch" comes into her shop, sparks fly, and she starts to wonder what could be.
Malcolm in the Middle - Hal's Christmas Gift Tomorrow, 2:00 PM / FUSE 109 Hal and Lois struggle to come up with ideas for homemade gifts for the kids as a result of their meager budget; Malcolm starts to feel like his brothers are alienating him; Hal tries to find a gift worthy of his boisterous claims.
Jack Frost Tomorrow, 2:30 PM / AMCALL 64 A neglectful father chasing a dream to become a rock musician dies in an automobile accident while trying to get home for Christmas and returns in the form of a snowman to spend time with his son and do the things he always meant to do.
Friends - The One with Chandler in a Box Tomorrow, 2:30 PM / TBS 23 Chandler accepts his punishment for kissing Kathy by spending Thanksgiving inside a shipping crate; Monica finds that Richard's son is also attracted to her; the gang takes turns giving each other Secret Santa gifts for the holidays.
Christmas with the Kranks Tomorrow, 3:00 PM / FAM-E 52 Crushed that their daughter won't be coming home for Christmas, a couple decides to skip the holiday for a tropical getaway; after suddenly learning their daughter is on her way home, they find themselves scrambling to create a Christmas wonderland.
Candy Cane Christmas Tomorrow, 4:00 PM / LIF-E 38 A woman's spirits are dashed when her neighborhood decides to forego her most cherished Christmas tradition, which leads her to search for a new tradition to start while realizing that she is missing love as the most critical part of it.
A Christmas Detour Tomorrow, 4:00 PM / HALMRK 68 Two passengers with clashing personalities cross paths again in their airport hotel after their flight is forced to change course and must find a way to work together so that she can reach her destination in time for her wedding.
Grounded for Christmas Tomorrow, 6:00 PM / LIF-E 38 A pilot reluctantly agrees to allow her arrogant co-worker to stay at her parents house when all flights in Cleveland are grounded due to a winter storm, but the pair are forced to feign being a couple when her former boyfriend arrives for a party.
Christmas in Vienna Tomorrow, 6:00 PM / HALMRK 68 A concert violinist starts to feel that her heart not in it anymore, but after she decides to travel to Vienna for a performance, she finds the inspiration she felt had been missing, and she also stumbles across a new love.
Christmas in Angel Falls Tomorrow, 6:00 PM / HALLMV 84 A guardian angel is assigned to the town of Angel Falls in order to help the residents revitalize their Christmas spirit, but when she volunteers at the local church, she befriends a volunteer fire chief, who is skeptical of her purpose.
Last Christmas Tomorrow, 6:15 PM / HBOSG 203 A young woman who appears to have an endless amount of bad luck decides to accept a job working as an elf in a year-round Christmas store, but after a man enters her life and her life starts to change, she wonders if it's all too good to be true.
Arthur Christmas Tomorrow, 6:20 PM / STRZCM 276 With a vital task that must be completed as quickly as possible, Santa's youngest son attempts to use his father's technologically advanced business to accomplish the undertaking, and along the way, he comes to further understand his family.
Bad Santa Tomorrow, 7:00 PM / PARAMNT 43 A drunken con man and his partner in crime pose as a department store Santa and elf in order to steal from the vault every year, but an overzealous head of security and a lonely and clingy little boy threaten to ruin this year's haul.
The Polar Express Tomorrow, 7:00 PM / AMCALL 64 A young boy's doubts about Santa's existence are allayed when he is invited aboard a magical train for a journey to the North Pole, where he is treated to a special gift reserved only for those who truly believe in Santa.
Twinkle All The Way Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / LIF-E 38 When a snow storm threatens to ruin a wedding at the exclusive Snowview Lodge, a wedding planner turns to the co-owner of a Christmas décor and house-lighting company for help ensuing the ceremony runs smoothly as he works with a high-profile client.
Good Morning Christmas! Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / HALMRK 68 Two quarreling television hosts are sent on an assignment to report on a small town's festive Christmas celebration plans, but as they feign civility for the sake of appearance, something genuine starts to form from the fake act.
Cranberry Christmas Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / HALLMV 84 A separated couple feign marital bliss on national television in order to help their town's Christmas festival, and their business, but their rekindled love is soon complicated by some new opportunities.
Home Improvement - Home for the Holidays Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / WFTS-DT2 629 / LAFF When Randy decides to visit the family for Christmas, he discovers that life has gone on without him and that things around the house have changed; Tim is shocked when he learns Al is his strongest competition for the annual decorating contest.
Little House on the Prairie - Christmas at Plum Creek Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / HALLDRMHD 1124 The members of the Ingalls family secretly take extra jobs at Christmas to be able to buy special gifts for each other, and Laura feels left out because she is too young to work until she comes up with an idea about how to raise money on her own.
Nature - Santa's Wild Home Tomorrow, 8:00 PM / WEDU-DT 3 / PBS / HDTV / New An intimate look into life in Lapland, a region in northern Finland that's the fabled home of Santa Claus, reveals a land of snowy trees, green lights in a star-filled sky, and tenacious wildlife such as reindeer, wolverines and brown bears.
Bad Santa Tomorrow, 9:00 PM / PARAMNT 43 A drunken con man and his partner in crime pose as a department store Santa and elf in order to steal from the vault every year, but an overzealous head of security and a lonely and clingy little boy threaten to ruin this year's haul.
Last Christmas Tomorrow, 9:15 PM / HBOSW 210 A young woman who appears to have an endless amount of bad luck decides to accept a job working as an elf in a year-round Christmas store, but after a man enters her life and her life starts to change, she wonders if it's all too good to be true.
Bob's Burgers - Better Off Sled Tomorrow, 9:30 PM / FXX 82 Louise, Gene and Tina engage in a heated turf war when their usual sledding territory is invaded by a group of angsty teenagers; Bob comes to Linda's aid as she faces limited time left to knit three scarves before Christmas arrives.
Hope at Christmas Tomorrow, 10:00 PM / HALLMV 84 When a mother and her young daughter come to a small town in North Carolina for the holidays, a man tries to make her Christmas wishes come true by helping her open herself up to life, love and believing in the spirit of Christmas again.
A Nashville Christmas Carol Tomorrow, 10:03 PM / HALMRK 68 A TV producer becomes forced to work with the man who broke her heart on a country music Christmas special, but she gets interrupted by Christmas spirits who are determined to get her to revisit events that occurred in her past.
Rediscovering Christmas Tomorrow, 10:05 PM / LIF-E 38 A department store window designer returns to her hometown to help her sister spearhead decorations for the towns annual Snowflake Festival and Christmas Eve dance, but she finds herself butting heads with the man whose family created the festival.
K9 Christmas Tomorrow, 10:56 PM / ENCORFM 378 An injured dog who used to work for the police is adopted by a girl whose group of friends organize a special charity concert to benefit children in need, but when two criminals plan to steal the money, the group bands together to save Christmas.
Friends - The One with 2 Parts, Pt 2 Tomorrow, 11:00 PM / NIC-E 36 Rachel attempts to take down her Christmas lights on the balcony without assistance and ends up suffering from a sprained ankle; Phoebe is forced to run damage control after her twin sister breaks up with a devastated Joey.
Bad Santa 2 Tomorrow, 11:00 PM / PARAMNT 43 Willie Soke and his sidekick, Marcus, make plans to rob a Chicago charity on Christmas Eve, and along the way, they encounter Willie's mother, a cheery boy, who evokes Willie's humanity, and a proper lady with a heart of gold.
The Polar Express Tomorrow, 11:00 PM / AMCALL 64 A young boy's doubts about Santa's existence are allayed when he is invited aboard a magical train for a journey to the North Pole, where he is treated to a special gift reserved only for those who truly believe in Santa.
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2020.11.24 19:49 Extra-Layer-593 Is it the distance?

Hey everyone,
I was wondering what are the opinions on dating someone who is not in the same country. Would you do it? Or do most of you prefer someone you can immediately meet and go for coffee or something. I am a guy on muzmatch and some other online places and would say I am a solid 8 (good profile reviews according to previous matches, etc), however my matched are extremely low. Even with women who mention "will move abroad". I live in the middle of nowhere (very few people and almost no muslims), however I mention that I will eventually move. I understand many people on there are not serious, but still, it's frustrating not matching with anyone or being left on read with no responses (not even to decline the instant match). Would you consider someone long distance? or do you only match with locals? Also what are your opinions on instant matches?
Thanks and good luck to everyone iA
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2020.11.24 18:16 barn6758 Asking the ladies: whats your honest opinion?

So me and my ex (both 25) split up a couple of months ago and we are both expats with a limited social circle where we live so quite similar recent single situation. I would also say we are pretty similar in terms of attractiveness, maybe Im a bit more outgoing. Now I was a bit hesitant but in the end we both started looking for a rebound/distraction pretty soon after and it took her a few weeks to surprisingly find a guy she likes on Tinder (I think she went on a lot of dates). He also seems to be in for a longer term thing. I on the other hand went on exactly 4 Tinder dates in the whole time since the breakup, still talking with one of them but the rest I just really didnt find attractive ( I kind of lowered my standards quite a bit out of frustration for a while but I know this is shit behaviour). I just wonder am I unlucky/doing something wrong or do you feel like there is actually an advantage for women with this? I really dont feel like my ex is better looking than me and Im not lacking behind in terms of job/apartment. I saw her profile as well.. and i think we are both just not the best on pictures lol
With my other long term ex some years ago I also had a similar situation where she found a new boyfriend (they are still together even) within 1-2 months while it took me half a year to find someone new.
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2020.11.24 16:27 h3lpm3int3rn3t Trying to Move On - The Misdeeds Post

I don’t remember the sequence of events anymore, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is, it’s happened multiple times over the span of our two year relationship, and every time, just like everyone else here, I hurt a little more.
Once, it was old nudes from a girlfriend he “forgot about.” Maybe he did. They were old. He doesn’t delete text conversations, really. Fair enough.
Once, it was some girls on Snapchat with Pornhub accounts. He used to have one. I knew about it, but decided it was fine. I thought, he made it when he was lonely before we dated, and it probably felt good to get a little attention. I didn’t think he’d be trying to make new sexting friends. He says he deleted the profile and any contacts he had from there. I don’t think I asked him to, but I was relieved.
Once, it was Omegle. I was disgusted (and angry and sad and betrayed). On a website where a little kid could be watching, having his dick out on camera. Did he not think of that? He says he didn’t. He promised he’d never do it again. I’m pretty sure he did, though. I can’t be sure. I thought maybe I hadn’t drawn the boundaries clearly enough, so I made sure to be clear this time. No live chatting with other women, via any medium. No exchanging nudes via snap or elsewhere. I think it was this time where I discovered he had a FetLife profile, and he said he was only on there to get ideas/advice before we went to a swinger’s club. (I’m open, or was open, to transparent and honest group sex as long as I’m involved and we discuss it beforehand.)
Once again, it was Snapchat. The most recent time. I saw a questionable selfie from someone. Not overtly sexual, but directed towards him only, with lots of cleavage. It turns out, he bought her OnlyFans. He says he purchased things from the site twice (I don’t know who the other girl was). The rest, he followed free accounts. I went back to look for his account, but I could find nothing. The only reason I knew about the OnlyFans is because there was a password reset e-mail I saw, but that wasn’t there anymore. Did he delete it? Did he take it to another e-mail? I wish now I’d have figured out how to log on to see what he was following, what he had spent. The one girl…he used to be friends with her. I saw that 8 or 9 years ago, she was tagging him in things on facebook. They were friends. Maybe more. He confessed to having a reddit account for porn - including posts of himself.
Also the most recent time, he made a very big spectacle, trying to leave the conversation several times, crying, dramatic movement. I actually screamed at him, despite at least one roommate being home. To sit down. Because we need to talk about it. It should’ve been a bigger red flag at the time, but I started by asking him what he thought I’d found on his phone. And he wouldn’t answer. He said, “just tell me.” So I know there is still more to it than he is telling me.
He’s the one who used the word “addiction.” I think it’s true. I don’t know if he is committed to stopping. Supposedly, his first goal was going to be “no nut November” and he swears he’s been clean this whole time. I try to be encouraging and celebrate milestones. But the truth is, I don’t think he would tell me if he relapsed. Even though I try reminding him that the lying hurts the most. Even though I directed him to this subreddit, where almost every person says the same thing.
It *seems* like this time was different. It seems like he feels truly sorry, and doesn’t know exactly how it escalates so quickly (which is what he says the snapping is – escalation). It seems like he wants to overcome his issue so we can have a happy relationship. He lamented that his other relationships ended for similar reasons – and he was at fault. It seems like it hurts him to hurt me, and I’ve read first-hand accounts by men saying similar things in related subreddits. It seems like he’s making an effort to do other things, like streaming on Twitch or sometimes going to bed earlier than usual. (We work different shifts, and he generally stays up later than me because of it, which is what I would do if the roles were reversed, so no major red flag there.)
But reading all these stories, it’s so hard to know if it’s real or if he’s placating me. And if he’s placating me, I wonder if he’s struggling internally, angry with himself, or if he doesn’t care, but likes having someone around to feel less lonely.
He briefly got angry with me for not being able to trust him. He seemed to change his mind when I reminded him of all the lies I know he’s told, and that there are probably more I don’t know. I told him I may not be able to trust him fully, but I believe that he can change if he tries.
I haven’t told *anyone* any of this. I don’t want anyone to view him differently or judge him. That’s why I’m here. I just wanted to share all these things I’ve been silently thinking about almost every day since they started. I’m hoping if I get it out, and if I come here when things get rough, I can start to actually feel better. If you made it this far – I thank you for reading. And I hope we can all heal from this.
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2020.11.24 13:32 SpaceManBalls83 I need the help of strangers on the internet..

Quick history, I (37M) came out of a long term relationship Christmas last year, 12 years and 1 child after it started, wasn’t too upset because I knew I’d always see my daughter and the break had been coming for about 2 years so it came to its natural end, I’m still ok with the ex, never going to be best friends but doing ok.
So before Covid I started dating an old school friend I’d not seen in years and I thought that was going well but it became apparent she had severe trust issues and I may have been a bit clingy when we were together, nothing too drastic but I do cringe looking back, lesson learned there.
I was then single for a bit, then started dating my best friend, the relationship was going great and I still feel now she was “the one” but her history, demons and abusive ex all contributed to the demise of that romance (he sexually abused her, admitted it when arrested and STILL was not charged, which absolutely broke her) I tried to just be there and support her through it but I think she felt a relationship wasn’t going to work under those conditions (I did, she didn’t, but I can’t force her into it so we just took a few steps back, still best friends though!)
So now I find myself delving into online dating and have to say, it’s a daunting thing, like a meat market, I always read profiles and only like/message women I feel I could connect with and am very put off by lingerie pics (although a big fan lol) and when they don’t write anything/very little.
Ladies, what sort of things in profiles do you like to see? I won’t lie or compromise my integrity for it but any suggestions I can relate too would be very much appreciated.
Thank you.
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2020.11.24 01:41 ArchivistOnMountain When to Count [OC]

First: What Counts Second: Who Counts
I was organizing my data files, mostly sorting the enormous trove of books that my human mentor had given me, and I found a small file at the end. It was a very small file, and the timestamp showed that it was added at the end of my trading trip – three days before we ended the Run, to be exact.
What could Jack have wanted to say? He had plenty of opportunity at the end of the Run when we were making preparations to depart.
Wondering would give me no answers; the file was right there, so I opened it.
Shonarth,
I had a few things that I wanted to teach you, but you aren’t ready for right at the moment, so I’m placing this in the archive for you to find. I suspect that it will be a few years before you get through everything, so that will give you plenty of time to incorporate the business methods and behavior that you wanted to learn. Now comes the hardest lesson: when not to use your new knowledge.
A business runs on two things: resources, and people. The resources are the part that most space-faring civilizations have lost sight of. Accurate tracking and allocation will mean that your resources last longer and are leveraged better than any of your competitors. That will give you an edge, and is the focus of what I’ve been teaching you.
The people that make a business run cannot be managed and quantified the same way. Business relationships have always been an object of study for every civilization, and are the part that isn’t amenable for putting in a spreadsheet. But, as I have tried to teach you, those relationships have strict boundaries, for both sides, and there are extremely good reasons for being willing to cut off a relationship at any time. You have to protect your business and yourself; business relationships are easily twisted into unhealthy and exploitive transactions, and you must guard against that.
But in your private life, you must never treat your relationships as business transactions. The ones that you relax with, the people that you trust – if you do not trust unreservedly, you will cheat yourself out of the security and happiness that you are trying to build.
A business, after all, is a means to an end. You want security and you want to accomplish things – and business can be your means to achieve both. But if your private life is nothing but relationships where you count the cost, where you are willing to end it all over one false move, you can never have the happiness that you are working so hard to build in other areas of your life.
I’ve gotten the sense that your people are a great deal like mine – aside from being ginormous and having two extra arms, of course. In human society, a worthwhile marriage is one where both partners give everything. There is no “counting” the favors, the forgiveness, the compliments, or the offenses that the other partner gives; only giving of oneself unreservedly, always remembering that your partner is giving the best they have, just as you are.
I, myself, have failed at this. Recall what my line was on that Tour we took: information. A product that could easily have been sold through message-drops, regardless of the time delay. The true reason I was out there is that I had my marriage fail, and I was running away for a time, seeking a way to heal my emotional scars after I had been betrayed; partially by my partner, but also by my refusal to trust as much as she deserved and as much as I had promised.
Don’t make the same mistake, Shonarth. When you leave your business office, do not be a business man. A human aphorism that you won’t find anywhere in this archive is bluntly clear:
No other success can compensate for failure in the home.
Don’t chase the money – chase success. I forgot the difference between the two for a time, and being your mentor has helped me heal and ground my vision in a way that nothing else could have, and for that, you have my thanks.
Jack Morgan Jack-Of-All-Trades
P.S. That doesn’t mean that I’m going to return the money.
I laughed. And then I frowned. Re-reading the letter, I grabbed a notepad; this will take a great deal of humility to fix.
Step one: understand everything that I had broken.
--
Fortunately, I was up against … an opponent, not an enemy. And Zia was not likely to take violent revenge, fortunately. But the emotional intimacy this would require could hurt me just as bad. I needed to remember that I chose her as my wife specifically because she in no way reminded me of my father.
I had been busy laying the groundwork and preparations during the last two days; I had no more ability to delay. I walked over to the Mamas area of our apartment. Her door was completely closed. I hope there’s no meaning behind that.
Knock.
She opened the door – I suppose that with just the two of us in the apartment, asking who was at her door was silly. I could have used the few seconds to gather my thoughts. “Yes?” she asked.
“I have a great deal to apologize for, and I am hoping that you are willing to listen to me.”
Her searching examination could have reported the dental work that I had gone through when I was five, but she let me in anyway. Zia led me into her personal sitting room, and sat in the luxurious armchair. That left me to sit on a couch on the other side of the room.
Time to play a different game. Instead, I stopped in front of her seat and knelt. “We have been married for six days, and you have not felt that we needed to speak beyond routine pleasantries. I started searching my mind for what I might have done to offend you, and …”
I had no idea that sardonic was a kind of look.
“… I believe that my offenses started with our first meeting.”
Now Zia showed a bit of shock. Well, the cynical and mocking expression was gone, at least.
“First, you need to know how I found you.”
She interrupted, “You were looking for a woman that could help you with your business efforts, and had just gone through emotional turmoil so she would be desperate enough to get married without knowing you.”
“Uh, that is actually pretty far from the truth.” I paused to think it over a bit. “And I’m sorry that you had a bad experience. I have no idea who or what made you think that you should be desperate to get married, but my approach was completely separate from that.”
“Oh, really?” She was mild and gentle, but her sarcasm was still evident, and could really hurt if I ever opened up to her. The only way out is through. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. No pain, no gain.
“Yes, really. I first queried the planetary registry, looking for a female skilled in their educational specialty that was unmarried. The list was too long to be manageable. I tried again, the second time searching for a female, unwed, specializing in taxonomy, cladistics, classification, categorization, folksonomy, or ontology.”
“That list would have had 80% of the world’s librarians on it. Why did you not end up with one of them?”
“Because your name was on it.”
That skeptical look again.
“Really! I gave your name – and your name only – to a private detective and information broker. I paid triple for a fast answer, and I asked for a personal profile and a list of possible locations where I could engineer a meeting with you.”
Zia looked a bit skeptical; I kept talking. “I knew who I was meeting, and I knew that you could help me with my ambitions. I had planned on a relationship that was a bit more gradual, but you may have noticed that when you said we should get married last weekend, the only objection I had was that it was too fast for me to provide housing – I didn’t object to anything else in the plan. Why?”
“Because you wanted to get me married to you before I could recover enough to think straight.”
“Exactly!” Zia seemed affronted that her gloomily cynical answer was correct.
“And what would make me want to marry you before you could reject me?”
“You are aware of how much of an ass you are?”
I chuckled. “Well, yes, but that’s not it. I realized that marrying you, in any sane observer’s opinion, would be quite a ways out of my reach.” I took a breath to center myself and gather my courage. Here was where I needed to be most honest – and appear to be that honest, too.
“I asked for a personality profile, remember? I didn’t ask for a picture. I was looking for a Mama that would be a joy to be around. I wasn’t looking for a pretty one – why?”
“Because you are blind?” The sarcasm was increasing, so somewhere, I had failed to gain her trust. Maybe I could earn that next.
“Because I already found one!” I didn’t shout, but my voice was definitely much louder than normal – or was polite. It shook her.
“Who?”
In a softer than normal tone, I said, “You, of course.”
Yes, sardonic was definitely a kind of look. Zia must have practiced a great deal to get it down this well.
I was looking up at her, and settled back as far as my posture would let me. “Let us try from another angle. Are there different kinds of beauty?”
“I suppose,” she grudgingly admitted.
I needed a different tack on this approach. “What style of flyer to you like? Of all the models that have ever been, which would you prefer to have?”
She was dubious that I was making sense, but answered immediately, “A Skitter XVII.”
My smile was involuntary. “I had one of those, once. What did you like about it?”
She was almost enthusiastic. “Is the handling really as good as the reviews said? I think that it was the most beautiful flyer ever made…”
“It was good – almost good enough. But you know that there are others that prefer the styling of the Onyx series, and the sales of the Sightseer are a good indication that there are fans there, too. Why do people prefer different flyers?”
She indicated bemusement. (A human-style shrug is one of those things that we just don’t do. But if she could, it would have happened here.) “I have no idea.”
“Of all the chains in this argument, this is the one you have problems with? This is where your understanding breaks down?” My amusement was not appropriate, but I couldn’t help it.
“What do you mean?”
“Zia, you are an ontologist, and your professional activities involve deconstructing the values hierarchy of individuals that have long since passed away. Tell me, as a professional, why do people prefer different flyers?”
The tilt of her head indicated that I might have been a little rude, but that she was willing to let it pass for the moment. “Because they have different priorities for their values. With luxury as a higher value, they would prefer the Onyx. If they need to move larger groups regularly, the Sightseer would be what they prefer. Performance and styling lead one to the Skitter series.”
“One kind of styling,” I corrected, “leads to the Skitter series. There is a significant group of people that prefer the angular Lembo types.”
We shared a moment of solidarity when we both frowned a bit. They looked like straight slabs of composite had been just slapped together to cover the frame and mechanicals, with no vision or artistry involved.
“In any case, is it hard to extend that understanding to cover the beauty of women? Different types of beauty deriving from different priorities of values.”
“So?”
I was getting exasperated at her inability to make the connection. “So – I find you very attractive. I did a very poor job at letting you know that when we met, and I am becoming astounded at how you refuse to believe me now.” I recalled a minor comment of hers. “Is that part of how you came to be …” this required delicacy, “… emotionally vulnerable just before we met? A man lied to you about how he felt about you?”
Zia regarded me quietly for a long moment. Then she said, “Yes. He thought me to be an easy mark and that I would help him become the new heir for the Cloovatni clan. Our original date to be wed was the week before our own.”
I let out a sigh. “And you caught the truth before you took any irrevocable steps. Good.” I brightened. “But we can do something about your odd…” I waved both top hands in dismissal, “… self-delusions. Can you be absent from work for a day?”
“What do you have in mind?”
I quirked my lower arms to show amusement. “I promise, you will find it worthwhile. Eventually.”
Zia wasn’t going to follow me just on my word. “Shonarth.”
I realized that my best course would be to give up. I was going to lose anyway. “Fine. There is a specialty school for those that seek to learn clothing design. I have arranged for a few of their more promising students to design and create a wardrobe for you. Let them interview you, choose from among their designs. While the clothing you have selected is being created, you will be meeting with some specialists who will show you how to use commercial cosmetics to showcase your beauty.”
Zia regarded me with another stare that seemed to catalog my past. “Why?”
“Because the one person that most needs to know that you are beautiful is the one person the most refuses to accept it!” I cried. I used a four-hand punch against the floor to swing my legs beneath me again, and stood to my full height.
“I have completed the assignment that your Father gave me when we spoke before our wedding. The completion came with a nice bonus, and I’m using it to try and crack open this shell of self-doubt you have, so that even if you never accept me as anything more than your husband, you will at least accept yourself for all that you are.”
Zia was standing, too, but looked as if she wanted to back up a bit, to put space between herself and the words that came out of my mouth. Yeah, I know that feeling. I was a bit too honest, there.
“You want to be more than my husband?” She couldn’t believe it, judging by her volume and tone.
“Well, in my perfect world? Um… yes?”
She was quite dazed. In time, she quietly said, “But we haven’t known each other for nearly a year…”
I smirked. “I’m smart enough to see when a fantastic woman …” I trailed off. What has to happen to me in order for me to recognize an obvious fact? “You – you’re … smart.” I was almost dazed by the realization – and its implications.
Zia seemed to be thrown off by my abrupt shift. “… Maybe?” she ventured.
“No, I mean, you’re really smart. You specialize in reconstructing the thought and value patterns from the behavior of people that are long dead, and you’ve refined their classification system in at least one area simply because you could. You’ve been at this abstruse cerebral specialty for about ten years. You know what you are doing.”
I waited. Eventually Zia said, “And?”
“And you know that the standards of beauty in a culture swing around in different times to different types. You know that you are pretty.”
She turned to the wall so that she would not have to meet my eyes.
“So this whole presentation,” I waved my hands to encompass all of her, “is a sham. Why?”
Zia fidgeted for a moment before she abruptly sat. “It started when I began my specialty schooling. Too many looking for the money that comes with a Cloovatni girl, none looking for me, instead. You know that my family owns the Tricksy Canine entertainment studios?”
“I do now,” I said wryly.
“Oh, that’s right. What did Father assign you?”
I allowed the diversion; the calmer she got, the more honesty I’d get. “The distribution of physical media is a real money sink, the studios are getting hammered every time there’s a new release. I think that he wanted me to negotiate a better contract with the transportation firms. Instead, I shifted the production of the physical media from here to about 25 smaller factories around the world. From there, shipping is almost free, and our costs for manufacturing are only up a little. Overall, we’re looking at a 16% profit increase.”
She had the wit to act impressed, whether she was or not. In the overall business, it wasn’t going to have that great an impact, but I did manage to turnaround that assignment in less than three days, and I did get a bonus. Back to the Mystery of Zia.
“In any case, why did you choose to hide yourself?”
“It discouraged the fortune hunters and put me in a position to find a man that fit my requirements.” She sized Shonarth up. “And why did you select me? You said that mine was the only name you pursued. Why?”
I settled back on my seat. “When you were, let’s see ... about 23, you accompanied your Father to a contract signing. The other party was a badly behaved provincial farmer that was contracting to store agricultural products in your warehouses. He treated your Father – and you – quite badly. Do you remember?”
“Not well,” admitted Zia, thinking hard. “It was just before I attended my specialists education and … you were there!” she said pointing at him. “The small boy that was forever running in to the meeting room! That stupid farmer’s heir!”
“Exactly,” I admitted. “And do you know why I was doing my best to be in that room?”
Zia cocked her head to the side to convey, Of course not, you idiot.
“Because I found that man’s daughter extremely fascinating. And now, all these years, later, I found her name on a list. I thought that finding a woman like her is just ridiculous, when I can possibly be accepted by that woman herself.”
“Really,” drawled Zia. “So, in the past two weeks, you have tracked down a clan princess in disguise, married her, been inducted as her Clan Heir, shown yourself as the business wizard that we needed to keep the clan afloat, discovered that your new wife is as pretty as you want her to be, and been accepted as her mate.”
Accepted! YES! She somehow shifted to radiate presence, like the candidates at the Fethruvath Walk, but without the freezing condescension.
“You told me that the human sayings were the impetus behind all your recent successes. What could they have possibly said to generate all this?”
“The humans have a number of sayings that would have just this effect,” I noted calmly. “My favorite currently is, ‘Life is hard; it’s harder if you’re stupid.’ But really, the one that keeps coming to mind is so prevalent, they don’t know who said it first.”
I smiled, and it wasn’t a kind thing. It was a sharp thing. “Go big or go home,” I recited.
I’m just getting started.
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2020.11.24 00:19 helpcreepylandlady My Old Coworker Knew WAY Too Much About Me

This is the story of a co-worker I had a long time ago, so I can look back on it and laugh now, but at the time it was really distressing for me.
 
To give some context, every summer I would do some temp work for the company where my dad worked. It was an education company, so they always needed temp workers around July/August time for all of the exam remarks that they had come in. It was data entry work, but it suited me fine and it meant I could earn a little extra cash while I was at University. I did this every summer from when I was 19 right through to when I was 23, and then I got another job at the same company for a bit after I graduated, but we'll get to that later. For now, all you need to know is that I was a reasonably familiar face there, and everyone knew I was my dad's daughter.
 
The main downside of working there was that I'd clock off work at 5pm, but I'd have to wait for my dad to finish work, since he was the head of an entire department, so he'd end up staying a bit later. Every day, I'd bring a book with me and sit in this little foyer area between his department and the department where I worked, since it had the most comfortable chairs.
 
I must have been 22 years old when this happened, because it was the penultimate summer that I worked there. I had just had my hair cut short for the first time in my life and I'd had it dyed red as well.
I was sitting on these couches reading when all of a sudden this guy approaches me. Let's call him Leon. He tells me that he works in my dad's department and he thought he'd come introduce himself. This was a pretty common occurrence for me and I was aware of this guy. He was young and decent looking, so a few of the women in my department had a crush on him. I was dating someone at the time though and I had never actually seen him in person, but I could see what they saw in him.
 
We got to chatting and he mentioned that I'd changed my hair, so I told him about cutting it short and he cut me off mid-sentence. This is where it started to get weird.
He said, "No, first it was brown and you didn't have a fringe. Then you went through that phase of curling it. Then you put the fringe it and dyed it red. After that, you dyed it purple. Now you've had it cut short and dyed it back to red."
This guy I had just met was describing over two years worth of hairstyle changes that I'd had. I felt creeped out, but he seemed like a nice enough guy and I guess I had worked at the company throughout that entire time, so it was reasonable to assume that he'd noticed me before.
That should have been the first red flag.
 
He asked me if I had Facebook and I told him that I did, so he said he would add me. That seemed pretty normal but then, after he'd send the friend request, he asked me to get my phone out so he could watch me accept the friend request.
I'm British and it's therefore impossible for me to be impolite, so I got my phone out and showed him that I had accepted it. I thought that might calm him down. Bear in mind, he wasn't a bad looking guy, so I felt a bit flattered at this point that he was so keen on me.
That sense of flattery dissolved REAL fast.
 
After the Facebook thing, he kept asking me if I had MSN and I told him that I didn't. I swear, throughout this conversation he asked me if I had MSN about four times. Then, the final time he asked, he was like, "Please can you get MSN so we can chat after work?" It was like he had something really urgent he wanted to tell me, but I had only just met this person.
I kind of laughed and said about how I hadn't used MSN since I was a teenager, without necessarily rejecting him.
Then he said something like, "Well, if you don't have MSN, then do you have Skype?"
This seemed like the perfect opportunity to bring up my boyfriend, who was a foreign student and went back to his home country during the summer. He was the only person I spoke to on Skype.
I said to Leon about how I didn't have my own Skype account, but I used my dad's Skype account to talk to my boyfriend. I really thought this might ward him off.
I was wrong.
Without missing a beat, he said, "Can you please just get your own Skype account so we can video chat after work?"
He said it like I was somehow inconveniencing him, like this was something we'd agreed to do months ago or something.
I had no idea how to react, so I just sort of smiled and laughed.
Thank the heavens, someone from my dad's department walked passed at that moment and was like "Leon, aren't you meant to be at your desk?" He scurried off pretty quick after that, but not before reminding me to get my own Skype account and send him the details.
 
I told my dad about the whole exchange in the car ride home, but all he said was that Leon was very friendly and that a lot of the women in his department liked him, so maybe I had just misunderstood the situation. I thought he was probably right, so I tried to not let it bother me.
Later that evening, however, I was on my computer doing University work when a message popped up on my Facebook.
It was Leon.
All the message said was, "We like the same movies."
I don't know what it was, but something about this message freaked me out so much. I decided not to respond and logged off Facebook, hoping that he wouldn't notice I had been online.
 
The next day, after work, I was sat in my usual spot when Leon comes over to me. His face was like thunder. At first, I thought he was just having a bad day and was walking through the hallway, but my heart dropped when I realised he was walking directly towards me.
"Why didn't you respond to my Facebook message?"
I was stunned. How was I supposed to respond to that? Who says stuff like that in real life? Lucky for me, I didn't have an opportunity to respond, because he started off on this tirade. I'm not even kidding. He started listing all of the movies we had in common that he had seen on my Facebook profile.
"Batman: The Dark Knight, Watchmen, Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, Fight Club..."
I just sat there watching him reel off all of these film titles. Once he was finished, all he said was, "It's okay, I forgive you." And then walked off back to his department.
 
Over the next couple of weeks, he came and found me in my spot every day and talked at me from the moment I sat down to the moment my dad came to get me.
I don't remember many of the other exchanges, but I do remember distinctly one day pretending to pick my nose when I saw him coming to see if it would put him off.
It didn't.
It got to the point where I'd get so stressed out after work that I'd go and hide in the toilets for as long as I could, but the women I worked with started to notice and think I was weird.
 
Eventually, I broached the subject with my dad and he gave me his car keys after my shift, so that I could go hide out in his car rather than in the building.
So I'm camped out in his car and I'm still feeling quite tense but, after about 20 minutes, I start to feel at ease. Surely he won't come looking for me out here?
Wrong.
I look over at the main entrance and my heart drops. He is coming out of the door and he's scrutinising all of the cars. I sank down as far as possible into my seat, but I wasn't fast enough and he saw me.
He comes rushing off and starts tapping on the glass, so I open the door and ask him what's up.
"I didn't see you in your usual spot, but luckily [Name of Doorman] told me he saw you come out here. Why are you in your dad's car?"
Again, what are you supposed to say to that?
I told him I had a headache, so I'd come out to the car to take some paracetamol and see if I could get some sleep. At least he respected that, because he told me to "feel better" and then left me alone.
 
I breathed a sigh of relief, knowing that I was only going to be working there for a few more days before I had to go back to University.
I told my dad about the car incident and he gave Leon "a talking to" the next day. Leon would still come find me in the foyer, but he'd only talk to me for a few minutes in passing before leaving me alone. It was a big relief.
On my last day at work there, I was fully expecting him to do something crazy, but he didn't even come to chat with me that day. I left the office and thought I would never see him again.
I found out he was fired not long after I left the company that year because he kept coming into work late and then spent most of his time at work chatting with his co-workers (and me, apparently).
 
Fast forward to January of 2014, and I was preparing to move to China for a position teaching English. I had graduated from University and I was working at the same company, but this time in a semi-permanent capacity. It was my last day at work, so I received quite a few gifts and some fuss from my co-workers.
It was about 10am when who should I see walk through the door but Leon. He had been hired as a temp to do the job that I had done for so many years. As soon as he walked through the door, he saw me and this flash of recognition crossed his face. I wanted to slide under my desk and die.
He came walking over to me and was all smiles, asking about how I was and what I was still doing at the company. It was at this point that one of my co-workers mentioned about how I was "off to China" soon.
Leon seized on that and started talking about his "friend" who was also interested in TEFL. His interest seemed genuine, so I got to talking about how I got my TEFL qualification, who I got it through, what company I was going to be working for out in China, etc. We chatted for about 20 minutes and he wrote down some details for his "friend," then went off to work.
At the end of the day, I was packing all of my stuff to leave and a few of my coworkers were coming over to say their goodbyes. Don't get me wrong, the Leon incident aside, I had a wonderful time working at that company and I made a lot of great friends.
Out of the corner of my eye, I see Leon approaching, but I think, "What's the harm?" He says goodbye and wishes me luck on my new adventure.
Then, as I'm literally walking out the door of the department, I hear him call out, "See you in China!"
 
For the first two weeks of my teacher training over there, I was like a hawk, keeping a constant lookout for this guy. He never did follow me out to China, but it still remains one of the creepiest encounters of my life.
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2020.11.24 00:11 tinderprofilesupport How to take pictures

I've found that a lot of problems that people have when creating an online dating profile is not having enough pictures of themselves. While selfies are perfectly fine in my opinion, it's important to have a variety, which can be difficult when it seems like the only options are pictures of just your face and mirror selfies. I've compiled a few videos that should help you take better photos of yourself.
How to take a self portrait rather than a selfie:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AnOc6CdjSA&t=190s
How to pose for men:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O16RQWTNxaw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFIjfXCnipE
How to pose for women:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bDLAxS0HAQw
One other thing that I can't find a tutorial for is photo editing. It's important to do this but if you don't know how to edit photos you can always use the auto edit feature. But honestly just mess around until you figure something out.
TLDR:
take a video of you posing then screenshot it
be casual, create movement by leaning, walking and having bent limbs, play with your clothes, hands, hair, etc, look away from the camera
step one leg forward, create movement by walking and spinning, play with clothes, hands, hair, bag, etc, look away from the camera or look over your shoulder towards the camera
edit your photos
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2020.11.23 23:11 alaskansteve Breathe..

Breathe Another day, another reminder that I am the guy in this GIF https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fmedia.giphy.com%2Fmedia%2F5mL9OFDty2v3q%2Fgiphy.gif&f=1&nofb=1 while most people are the two women. The news that is getting everyone's attention doesn't phase me in the LEAST. (Lots of links today, I will get them in the comment section as/if the platform allows them.)
As everyone knows by now, the Trump team released a memo saying Sidney Powell (SP) isn't part of their legal team. This does NOT mean she isn't working as she ALWAYS had and ALWAYS will. This is purely a clarification process that gives her more leniency and freedom to operate since she is not part of the OFFICIAL legal team. (This article) summarizes everything and makes it clear this is more than anything about fund raising and legalities.
Within minutes of this story breaking General Flynn posted that she is indeed still working with and for Trump. Remember, he said she is family, and if you mess with her, you mess with them. They are not abandoning her, but let your liberal "friends" think this is the case. SP responded with a tweet that was naturally deleted but she added a #KrakenOnSteroids. I love it.
With that out of the way, THIS is how I am feeling today. (This is a snapshot.) Do you understand how AWESOME things are about to get? Do you understand YOU are going to have a front row seat to one of the greatest moments in the history of the WORLD?! How could you NOT be excited?
Lets look at the latest round of fraud, since it is so laughable. We want this to be as egregious as humanly possible. ( A dude studied Mexifornia and found severe fraud in 53 of 58 counties.) That has been passed along. In Detroit, the biggest cluster of votes came from an insane asylum. (This article covers five election impossibilities) that we are supposed to believe took place this year. They have video of election workers taking away ballots to be destroyed. They have recorded audio of an election official in Detroit telling all employees that all Pedo Joe ballots were to be back dated.
A Dominion project manager was a mayor in MI, and took a $25 million contract. Do you remember how election night all the states shut down vote counting at the exact same time, something I have questioned repeatedly? Word is Dominion had a built in circuit breaker like Wall Street does when there is a run about to crash the market. It literally halted the elections because it realized the algorithm wasn't going to overcome the tsunami. (Lol, they got scared)
The Dominion HQ is in Toronto, the same place the unregistered DoJ plane was at for three days, and their HQ is abandoned, all external evidence of them ever being there removed. Apparently, they shared the building with a company called "Tides Canada" rumored to be involved in the fraud to elect Trudeau (beta male poser) over and over again even though Canadians hate him. How could anyone take office knowing that almost an entire country voted against them? No moral code whatsoever. No sense of guilt or remorse, basic human emotions that keep us in check. That covers ALL the "bad" news.
Now ready for the epic level of winning? I will build up to it.
Internal documents are showing the Trump team KNEW the lower courts would be Nazi storm troopers there to protect the steal. They will not stop what is coming, and I predict a bunch of those judges get disbarred and/or go to jail. The legend of 8kun grows daily. Some anon posted "General Flynn, you suck". Some anonymous 8kun posted a reply with "I have yet begun to fight" and posted a picture of some random dude. The anons jumped all over this and found out the guy is one of the key programmers of Dominion. So yes, Flynn is telling us the lead programmer for Dominion has turned on the dems and is working with Trump. 🤯
LW said they have copies of receipts of money paid to high ranking dem Congressman, the governor of GA, and the Sec'y of State of GA from China. 🤯
They also just posted evidence that the WSJ, WaPo, and LA Times were paid millions by China to publish propaganda 🤯, and this will have HUGE implications once you understand what I will explain in a minute.
This is a good time to remind you that in this situation, (the burden of proof is on the STATE to prove the elections were fair and clean) once that is challenged. After all, they have to certify it as such. This is NOT a criminal case, and the article explains it pretty decently. The case of fraud will be overwhelming. There will be NO legal defense.
What is interesting, as the case for the fraud keeps growing, polls of Americans show more and more believe Pedo Joe stole the election, including a third of libs and growing, yet have we seen ONE, and I mean just ONE, dem politician demand we investigate to make sure the election was honest? There isn't a SINGLE dem politician who supports free and fair elections. Same with establishment liberal republicans. The message is fraud doesn't exist, accept the theft and move on.
That brings us to the good stuff. Mike Adams has a great video summary of what I am hearing is coming (how the arrests could go down). Now remember, the elections took place under an issue of nat'l emergency. That isn't in question. What we are learning is that the Trump team has evidence of election interference and tampering by foreign nations prior to the election in what amounts to a cyberattack which is an act of war. This is where it is gets crucial to understand ALL the recent maneuvers by Trump.
Once this becomes an issue of nat'l security, EVERYTHING falls under the purview of the military. What has happened is Trump has made it clear who the good guys are, and who the bad guys are. He taken over the DIA, purged the Pentagon and top members of the Dept of Defense, and controls the NSA and special ops. Those are the good guys. The enemies are the FBI, the CIA, DoJ, big tech and media. I mean TRUE enemies as declared under a war act. 🤯
Mike Adams is reporting something I have been reading in that they have over 3 MILLION pages of dossier testimonies already. This is related to the election and all other issues we have been covering. So if this is all true, and the people who have military and intel insiders are all saying it is, then that means that election interference is seen as an act of war and a nat'l security risk which mean the military is in control which means so is Trump. Remember that the EO Trump issued in 2018 detailed THIS moment.
We keep hearing that thousands are being arrested. Mike Adams makes a great point. Whenever we have a high priority targets needing to be extracted from a dangerous situation, they send in the spec ops guys. These guys show up in unmarked vehicles wearing civilian clothing, then extract people. It's one of their specialties. Get in, get out covertly. It means that the arrests would be unnoticed and quiet. Those arrested would be taken to a central holding area under military control to be handed off to the DIA for interrogation and confessions. He has a different version of the internet kill switch which is a possibility.
At some point, the arrests will involve high profile targets that they cannot hide and keep quiet. Since you don't want them to know what is happening, tipping each other off, and fleeing, the Trump team might throw the kill switch to cover up the operation. Plus, we know the media would be treasonous as hell when the Fuhrer and Hillarnazi are hauled away so this would keep them silent. Then when things are turned back on, CNN looks nothing like it used to because Anderson Cooper, CIA stooge, has been arrested along with most of their newscasters.
How so? The EO specifically makes it a felony to spread disinformation and propaganda. Reference back to where I said we have evidence three major papers were paid by China to do just that. Is there a network that DIDN'T falsely label Pedo Joe as president elect? I believe really BIG things are going to go down. The military guys say the best day for the arrests is Thanksgiving due to travel restrictions, people gathering together in one location, and a general relaxation putting their guard down. I have no idea how much of this is true or accurate, but the military and intel guys are ALL giving some version of this scenario.
The problem is imagine you are some testosterone deficient soy boy living in your parents' basement posting your "I heart Pantifa" message to Twitter, when everything goes dark. (😂) You think Pedo Joe is your pedophile elect, then all of a sudden you hear Trump is the president and all your favorite America hating idols are under arrest. You go into immediate shock. Many will take to the streets to be met with the traditional branches of the military. These aren't the Portland cops taking a knee with you. These guys will not negotiate and will use lethal force (which will probably be labeled as CV-19 fatalities).
This is why they are ALL warning you to stock up on food and water and be prepared to shelter in your home for a few weeks. Is this all just a dream? Possibly, but I do know this FOR SURE. Trump will win, that is guaranteed, and the democrats will never be able to recover from this. They will NEVER regain credibility, and all their holier than thou platitudes we've been forced to swallow will ring hollower anything imaginable.
Right now we are at an insane 210,000 sealed indictments. For the new people, 1,000 is a HUGE number under normal circumstances. We are at 210 TIMES that. You want more concrete proof? Lin Wood (LW) keeps telling us that we will be "shocked" to learn about the Fuhrer (Obama). SP said the Fuhrer and friends were a criminal cabal. EVERYTHING keeps pointing back to the Fuhrer. He WILL be arrested at some point, and I think they are going to use THIS moment to bring down the entire deep state structure. Leaders, media, low level operatives. All of it.
How about this? ( This author claims Darth Soros was arrested back in October), and shows the arrest warrant. Sure it can be a forgery, but I keep telling you, these conspiracy guys invariably are people who discover the truth before the rest of society catches up.
Onto non-election news. (Trump is set to go nuclear on China) and is setting up a trade coalition to destroy them. He is also tackling the ridiculous birth right citizenship garbage abused by South Americans for decades. So much winning. I keep telling you, America is a conservative nation, and elections keep proving it. The single biggest voting block against Affirmative Action in Mexifornia was Hispanics.
Back to the conspiracy theory stuff. Anyone still believe CV-19 wasn't on purpose for this moment? (This author shows CV-19 testing kits that EXPIRED in 2018). The virus wasn't even NAMED CV-19 until 2020, yet here are the testing kits already in the hands of gov't officials years ago. Thanks Bill Eugenicist Gates.
A study showed big businesses are booming under the lock down economy while small businesses lost $200 billion. Of course, BIG businesses had the ability to do online sales, and many were allowed to stay open like Walmart while small businesses were forced to close.
People are getting fed up too, (Look at this video clip of a NJ citizen going off) on the Governor of NJ eating out with his family while the plebes suffer. Mexifornia put ‪a 10 pm‬ curfew in place, and major cities all over the state had HUGE crowds gather outside after ‪10 pm‬ in protest. The left is losing control.
NYC is a HELL hole, and almost an anarchist city. People are being pushed onto subway tracks to get hit by trains, people out in the streets with flame throwers, rats are exploding all over the city, gun deaths are soaring as the defund the police movement takes hold. You know my response. GOOD! You liberal MORONS voted for this, so enjoy the fruits of your decisions.
This isn't good. There is a new skin disease of unknown origin spreading in Africa. They are quarantining the SICK right now, just something to keep an eye on.
Libs are actually criticizing Parler because it dares to allow free speech. Uncensored free speech, and they are furious over it. (😂) This is hilarious.
A book about the dangers of the trans movement was banned by Target after a SINGLE complaint, probably (from this person). This made news bringing attention to the book which is now a number one best seller. Another Streisand Effect moment.
Did you know the Fuhrer has written three books about himself, and they all suck? Russia is about to block FakeBook, Twitter and YouTube because their censoring has gotten out of hand. Yes, a communist nation controlled by the former KGB members is going to block OUR companies for being too totalitarian. Let that sink in..
The uber liberal AMA just declared racism is a public health threat. So all those threats against whites are a threat to our health? Oh, those don't count. One million New Yorkers are turning to food banks as food shortages continue. Former liberal academic generals put in place by the Fuhrer are upset Trump is brining our troops home. I hope those guys go to Gitmo too. Apparently weaponized drones are only six months away from being operationally useful. Finally, two fun videos. Paul Joseph Watson blasts the Great Reset deniers, and this video shows what a typical conversation must be like between libs.
http://themostimportantnews.com/archives/what-radical-leftists-are-like-now
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2020.11.23 23:07 greatbigg Vent about a liar and a player apparently...

I just kind of want to vent, and get some validation I guess. I met this guy on FB dating. I was seeing him for about four months, and about 2-3 months ago, he told me that after date number two, he knew that I was good and so he closed the FB dating profile. Which matched my experience; I had him in my list of matches, and then one day he was no longer there. So I had evidence, and he confirmed verbally, that his dating app profile is closed. He talked a lot about how crappy apps are and asked a lot of questions about what women look for, what I looked for, and why he wasn't getting many matches, which, ya know. Keep reading. Fast forward to yesterday, he had been distant and cold I felt, and he was "sick" and then "away / with friends" on consecutive weekends we would have been together. On a whim, I decided to go make a FB dating profile to see if he was there. He lives very near me, so I restrict the age and location, and within a half hour and two hundred swipes probably, I find him. I'm shocked, I panic. I'm probably a little bit more attached to him than most would be, but a four month, talking about meeting the kids and a future together thing is no throwaway for me. So I call him, no answer. I text, no answer, just delivered but not read. I was progressively getting more emotional as the day went on, and he never delayed answering me. But this time it took hours. After like four hours of no reply, I sent him a picture of the profile I found of him, and I send him a superlike. Yeah I had the profile open on my phone all that time. So within 10 minutes of my sending that superlike he reads my messages. I am accusatory, but definitely not being super mean or anything, I was just like, if you wanted to end it, why not just tell me? i was expressing pain. No answer. I text him again, saying that he obviously doesn't care about me if he's not even answering me, at this point I'm pretty sure he's ghosting me. He reads, but no answer again. I gave him another hour. All this time, I'm crying, hurting, can't think of anything else; we were supposed to spend that evening together, but now he's reading and ignoring my messages, after I find his dating profile. So after an hour of waiting since my last msg, I blocked him finally. I was just going to embarrass myself texting over and over, so blocking him was a way to put it out of my mind. I figured if he wanted to talk to me, he could call or text me on the phone. I only blocked him on messenger. He did not call or text. So the next morning, I emailed him, and I told him off. By this point, it's pretty clear to me that he used me and lied and was looking elsewhere. I felt something, and I went looking for evidence, and I found it. But the next the part is the hard part. He said to me that since I call him names, he is over me. His ex was like that, always calling names or whatever, so he promised himself he would never be with someone like that again. My ex had a similar excuse about how his excuse abused him and thus when I would get angry (about his treatment of me> note this part doesn't exist in the man's world, it's just not addressed), he couldn't be with me anymore. He's making it my fault.
So I am the one sad, and apologizing, which I should because of what I said, but he never showed any emotion about me or my feelings. He never apologized for what he did, the lying, the dating profile, the ignoring me after reading my messages; he had excuses for all of it. it seemed he answered my insulting email this morning just to use it to blame me for the end and make me feel bad about it. He said he meant to answer me after I blocked him, but like I said, no call no text. He said he didn't know how the profile got there, he had deleted it and "I don't know, I don't care about any profile, and I don't have time for this BS". He works in tech, but he "doesn't know how FB dating profile got there". So, I am 99% sure he lied. Still, he meant something to me, and there's a chance that maybe his excuses were real (?) but he used my reaction to the profile and the ignoring as the reason why he just couldn't be with me, BECAUSE HIS FEELINGS. So can y'all just tell me he's a liar and whatever else you have to say about why I had to have been right, give me your experiences, anything. It's hard to be sure, even when I think any man would laugh at my uncertainty as of course he would know that I am exactly right. I was falling in love with this guy, and he couldn't even bother to answer my emotional texts about why he still has the profile up that he told me he took down, and I believe was down; couldn't muster anything at all in terms of consideration for me, and talks about HIS FEELINGS. I just cannot.
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